9. All the same rake
Time passes, and Mark Bridge, cussing atCleaver horizon reappears, but with promises and pleas for mercy. And Jones again falls in love with the one who betrayed her. So we are forgiven second, third, tenth time and we believe that people can change.
To correct the situation. »Out of sight, out of mind!» - The surest way not to step in once again on the same rake.
10. Fear of being single
Bridget's diary used up by the phrase »I'm afraid to diean old maid. » If not for the fear of being alone, Jones would never meet Cleaver. And we too often rush to the first comer, for the same reasons.
To correct the situation. Replace the word »loneliness» to »freedom». Think about it, freedom has a lot of advantages, most important of which can be formulated in a hook: if you stop looking for »at least someone,» chances to meet really the best man in the world will increase significantly.
expert Opinion
Psychologist ANATOLY Dobin, the expert of the program »Man. ? Manual on the radio »Mayak»:
Brigitte was looking ideal. But Mark does not correspond to the image of a man invented it. Is this bad?
Search »second half» - one of the mostfundamental human fantasies. And the most problematic. Finding the perfect partner can poison and destroy the existing relationship. All women's novels - about longing for the nonexistent perfect love, in which there are no fights, no suffering. It happens only in the movies and books, in reality, the ideal man (and woman), alas, do not occur. So in the case of Brigitte everything turned out perfectly. The moral is simple: you can dream about anyone, the main thing - to realize that reality is simply not able to meet all your expectations.Bridget takes phlegm and severity of Mark Darcy as a drawback. His restraint makes the heroine suspect offended quarrel ... Why is this happening?
Often there are couples in which one screams andRolls hysterics, and the other keeps silent. From the side it seems that the aggressor is the one who is better heard. But it is often the quiet one who turns out to be the real engine of the conflict. ? It's about people who are hiding from emotions and do not give the partner the opportunity to be heard. I saw many families where the woman seemed crazy. But in fact, she was much more »normal» than a man, in any way closes from the experience. But as soon as the woman calmed down, he immediately provoked her into new conflicts. In general, Mark in this story is not at all an innocent victim of circumstances.
