Quite often in relationships men prefer to keep your distance, deliberately avoiding intimacy, striving woman. The reason for this? And how to handle it?
The nature and causes of the distance depend on what stage of your relationship. If this is only the beginning of the novel, its distance can be related to the reluctance to develop the relationship. Perhaps he perceives them as a way good time. If the relations are of the same nature, it is unlikely for both of you this will be a problem. However, if your sweetheart in all other traits has serious intentions with you and keeps its distance, we should deal more carefully.
Determine to which of two types is your man, and then it will be easier to understand its remoteness.
The first type: he almost never goes to the rapprochement. Relationships are good, and you like steam, but intimacy was not. Occasionally it can become more open, but it does not last long.
The second type is: occasionally he is very honest and trusting, sincere conversations are not a problem for him, i.e. in principle it is able to be open. The problem is that this doesn't happen as often as you want.
If your man belongs to the first type, it is unlikely that you can develop good and lasting relationships. If you need the closeness and mutual understanding, and the man does not feel this need, your relationship will be accompanied by a constant sense of anxiety, dissatisfaction and disharmony. Psychologists formulate it as “different levels of intimacy”. However, on assurances of experts, these men are in the minority. The other men able and inclined to fully intimate, but sometimes they need a little distance and to be alone. This need is based on male gender needs for autonomy and independence.
That the man have a desire of love and care, he needs a small timeframe in the relationship, by which he supports his “natural” need for privacy. This process, occurring on a subconscious level, helps the man not get tired of the relationship. Having formed a couple, the man in some degree is losing a part of himself, restrains his ego. Periodic solitude and allows him to restore inner balance.
What to do?
To panic just not worth it. Nervousness often causes reckless behavior, which may seriously regret.
Don't look for the reason of such behavior in their actions or shortcomings. Soul-searching will have a negative impact on your self-esteem, and you may even here is not guilty.
You should not chase a man. It may be regarded as unnecessary encroachment on his personal space and go deeper in yourself.
Don't try to hurt him, responding in the same behavior just out of principle. His actions, most likely, are of an unconscious nature, and when it will restore its internal state, your relationship will still accept your desired look.
