Every woman aspires to build the perfectmodel of relations with their elect. The paradox is that almost always before the wedding favorite is a man dreams, and after the honeymoon characteristics of this particular husband changed in the opposite direction, and very often - almost the speed of light.
The Perfect Man - Myth or Reality?
Even experienced, prudent, pragmatic womaninclined to idealize the man she loves. Still, it is hoped that the »myth of the perfect man» - this is just a myth! I tried to check it with the help of her friends, or rather, by the example of their family relationships.
NONIDEAL MEN, WOMEN NONIDEAL
»Allen lives with her beloved in a civil marriage, itolder than 5 years. One confided to her husband on the subject, and she admitted that »a lot of going over, and when I met him, it was time to settle down, have a child,» so the choice was made. It seemed to her safe, too, like children, but do not earn much, and their property, they had not. Together, they have nine years, bought a house, the daughter grows up. My husband used to periodically remove the stress by using alcohol. Allen, in turn, is used to relieve stress with the help of another man. »
»Lyudmila and her husband might well beStars of some reality show - scandals and even fights accompany this family in the last few years. ? Ascending and converging periodically. But it all started very romantic - dating, gifts ... Although even then, Lyudmila noticed the imbalance in the nature of his boyfriend. Could flare up, rude. After another quarrel the girl decided to part with him, and soon realized that she was pregnant. A wedding ... Lyudmila, being on maternity leave, lost all her confidence. The husband's hypocrisy, on the contrary, grew. He humiliated, insulted, and finally raised his hand to her. Since the wife forgave him, felt impunity and it became a habit. Lyudmila made her choice - she continues to live with her husband and endures everything. And sometimes she provokes him to scandals. Her husband has positive qualities - he provides a family, he loves his son very much. »
LOVE AND T? EZVYY? ACCRETE
Discussing each other our spouses, wefriends do not just come to the conclusion that opting for her future husband, each of us is guided by some one, the most important benefit of the elect. For example, a favorite Alena very much like a child, as she was. For Ludmila important was the ability to earn money men.
If we take into account the argument that people withoutshortcomings do not happen at all, the chosen one, has set certain qualities - is the perfect man? So, for the sake of these subjectively important for living together qualities we women are willing to tolerate and more forgiving?
Personally, I am deeply convinced yet that's what. Every woman sees the man she loved above all his future father of the child. And for your children, we try to select only the best, including fathers.
The Perfect Man - BE!
By analyzing their marriages and family relationships girlfriends, I have made certain conclusions:
1. The ideal man exists, and each of us - his own, and quite apart from the word »myth». If your partner was the ideal at the beginning of joint way, nothing will prevent him to remain for you in this lifetime.
2. Here, much depends on the woman. It is important to always remember why you chose this man, what his qualities attracted you, and of course, to cultivate them in their ideal man! It is important to praise and encourage his chosen precisely because of these qualities, and to remind him that he have »the most-most, because ...»
3. Some may argue - »Why is it I have to constantly strain and extol him? I also want to compliment. » The answer is simple. Women's wisdom has not been canceled. And men are not always in vain compared with the children. All in our hands!
P.S. While I was writing this, my husband came up:
- I love you!
»I love you too, darling!» You are the best!
And I will not be ashamed to show him this article because my compliments and praise in his address is always sincere! For myself, I made the main conclusion - everything is relative. And men, too!
