Ещё с советского детства нам знакома картина, когда муж «приходит» домой на четвереньках, из квартиры слышны крики разгневанной жены, а утром она идёт на работу с синяком, который плохо скрывает косметика. Все знают, что это не первый раз, а она скажет, что и не последний. Почему тогда женщина продолжает жить с таким дебоширом? Некоторые издеваются над женой изящнее, например, постоянно изменяя жене. Она всё знает, но упорно делает вид, что всё в порядке. Почему же она не может развестись с таким мужем? Ради чего такие жертвы?
Women - creating a thin mental organization, and carry everything harder than men. A separation is known procedure degradingand painful. After the divorce, the men go to celebrate this event and thrown to the winds. A woman gets a bad stigma and stigma wife, who was unable to keep the family together. And if the wife was the initiator of the divorce, its easily be accused of is that it ruined the family and children deprived of Pope.
The second reason: many have nowhere to go after the divorce. Rent an apartment can afford noteach. So that divorced women remain two options, either to remain to live in the same apartment, which is now the municipal and endure the antics of her husband, it turns out that the divorce will not change anything, but only »untie the hands» man. Or the second option - to return to his parents' house, where once you've dreamed to leave. Again will be accusations, notation, and attacks and »total control». Only now will be more reproaches: »I told you so», »who are you now need children», »ashamed to tell people that your husband left.» There are exceptions, when the former tёscha support his ex-wife and help her cope with this stress, but this is the exception rather than the rule.
Решили во что бы то ни стало спасти семью, тогда вот вам несколько советов:
• Find a modern hobby: men like progressive and purposeful women;
• Peel off the neck with her Blessed. Find a full or part time job that will allow you to be independent of her husband.
• Show him that he is to you - the center of the universe. Attention and affection - the most powerful techniques, under the pressure of which can resist no man!
• Stop thinking only about yourself: male - extremely vulnerable to being incredibly inflated sense of self-esteem, and there is nothing surprising in the fact that they take all the reproaches and attacks, and even tips hostility.
• Take care of yourself. Pick new clothes, go to a beauty salon, change the hair, begin to engage in sports ... and then, most likely, your husband looks at you with different eyes.
Children. A man can forget about them, but never a woman. Now on her shoulders falls the role of single mothers and the problem of children. Unfortunately, there is a category of men who after a divorce are willing to do anything to no longer provide for their children. On the other hand, if a man dearly loves children and does not want to part with them, it can do so through the courts. And it is worse than to remain without money. The meaning of life of women in the family and the children, if they are taken away, we can deprive her reason to live.
What are the chances of divorced women with childrenfound a new love and start a family again? Practically no! As they say, meet on clothes. A divorced woman is not already 20 years old. The second reason - the children. Fortunately there are more men who are ready to take other people's children, but if the children of the new »pope» will be?
It turns out that life after divorce is not sorainbow. The woman is afraid that she will have to live out in oblivion and solitude. In addition, people marry for love and marriage become one. A divorce is like to cut off part of yourself, as an operation without anesthesia. And for these reasons, divorce is really terrible for everyone. But women somehow understand it, but men can not.
