In the middle of the task of parents living togetherIt is to entrust children to more and more family responsibilities. One of the best ways to maintain the solidarity of kinship - is a weekly family councils. Similarly, meetings need to take an important place in the plan of activities for the week. Do not cancel the tips because of someone else over-employment. Weekly tip enables each family member to express their concerns about this or that, to make proposals, to plan any activities, set goals and objectives to solve problems and to participate in one of the best learning activities that you can imagine.

The father or mother may be temptedto use its powers and take the place of the Chairman. But the more modest role to the parents themselves and the greater contribution made by the children, the greater the benefit will bring the family council. The heavy hand of the dictator soon stifle any progress. This does not mean that the child should have an equal voice in resolving any issues, but you need to allow all family members to vote in decisions that affect them directly. This will strengthen the unity of the family and devotion to the interests of its members with each other. Some families rely on the chair in turn each member. Thus, all children have the opportunity for some time to feel in the role of »captain» of the ship. With this approach, children acquire an excellent preparation for future life and family are good conditions for the growth of the personal and the positive attitude of family members to each other (the implementation of such a plan could do more for the unity of mixed families than any other offers).

Ваши дети могут также извлечь для себя большую пользу, наблюдая за тем, как вы с мужем решаете семейные проблемы. Если вы выбрали подходящий предмет для обсуждения, пригласите ребенка посидеть и послушать, как вы совместными усилиями находите приемлемое решение. На вашем примере ребенок придет к выводу, что проблемы вовсе необязательно влекут за собой разрыв взаимоотношений. Ребенок научится размышлять над проблемой, прибегать к тактике мозговой атаки в процессе поиска приемлемою решения, а также анализировать ситуацию и избирать правильную линию поведения даже во время стресса.

Each family must determine their priorities andbeware of taking on excessive commitments. School, church, clubs, sports and other events are constantly fighting for our attention. Even when the whole family manages to spend the evening at home, the ubiquitous TV defile the sanctity of the family circle. Families should never be completely fenced off from public events, but on the other hand, do not seek to participate in everything. Therefore, parents must carefully instruct their children and teach them to choose the most important activities in which they will certainly want to take part. Many events vying for the right to be considered the most important in a person's life, it can easily overwhelm and confuse.

Wise family several times throughout the year celebrate their strengths and weaknesses:

Does each member of the family is able to think independently, make decisions and act?

Is the each member of the emotional health of the family?

Whether family members are conscious of their unity? Can they work together?

Do you have family members common goals to achieve which they are working together?

The situation was whether the family healthy spiritual atmosphere conducive to solving everyday problems?

What can we say about the conversations between family members: they violate someone's dignity or strengthen it?

Does each family member assumes their share of responsibility or feeling burdened beyond measure?

Do some family time rest is paid to the recreational activities, relieve tension and fatigue, improves the health of family members and giving them a new influx of forces and energy?

Answers to these and other similar questions, you will get a clearer idea of ​​what state is your family and what you can expect from it in the future.