Have you ever had to scold yourself this way? As a rule, something similar happened in every girl's life. What to do in such situations?

First of all, if you have already set yourself upThe question »What if I'm a fool?», Even if you hate yourself at this moment - that's already good. You, of course, can argue, because what's good, if nothing happens in life, and you yourself are to blame for this.

But it's good, because if you reallyWere a real fool in the classical interpretation of this word, you would hardly have been inclined to such a reflection. After all, a close woman will never come to mind to curse herself, to doubt her own strengths and, in general, to engage in serious analysis of the situation.

But how then to call the person behaving himselfShort-sighted, stupid or absurd, constantly »stepping on the rake»? You can call it, of course, as you like, but from insults in your address, you can hardly get any benefit. The only thing you can get from this is some kind of emotional relaxation, but it's not a fact either. For example, high-speed swim in the pool is much more effective to relieve tension than a similar self-flagellation session.

There are women who, out of habit,Many times they repeat what kind of losers they are, and this self-abasement already becomes the style of their life. In such cases, in order to wean ourselves from this destructive behavior, serious conscious efforts will be required.

But not everyone wants to change the situation. Someone may even find it convenient, because it is much easier to recognize that you are a stupid, useless loser, thus obtaining a kind of »immunity» from all claims. Of course, what do you take if you are such a fool?

By the way, this method is often used by many men.

In fact, this clever manipulative device does not change the essence of the matter. You will always feel unhappy, and get new reasons to call yourself a fool.

Best of all, if you violate enough (if it is still necessary), analyze what situations you have negative thoughts about yourself. You can even write them down on paper, combining them into groups.
After that, find out what is the main reasonYour stupid behavior. First of all, in situations that are repeated many times. Perhaps you are first doing something, and then think about the consequences? Do you make hasty conclusions or react all too emotionally?

If you torture yourself with the thought »What if IFool? »After another tragedy in a romantic relationship - this, of course, is more serious than simple domestic situations, but in any case it is not a reason to be killed.
All annoying moments in your life of course you canCharacterized by total bad luck, but it will be more correct - low self-esteem and lack of self-discipline. You need to try to become more confident and start to organize yourself well.

Increasing self-esteem is a long process. Correction of self-esteem is directly dependent on your self-esteem. In this situation, the more flattering it will be for you - the better. Think, maybe you're just too hard on your person? Make a list of your positive qualities and successful achievements, you must have something to be proud of.

In general, read on the Internet the revelations of other girls who describe themselves as the latest fools. Perhaps you will understand that you are not really all that scared.