Even if you belong to the parents,who believe that the use of alcohol by teenagers and smoking does not represent anything special, or even to those parents who are convinced that it is inevitable, I'm sure you still live in fear for her son and his friends: they may drink and to drive, arrange outdoor party with booze or get into trouble because of alcohol. Here are some effective measures are taken by parents towards their children.

Alcohol is fun, but along with a ton of movingiron can lead to a sad end. According to the reports of the National Administration for the safe movement in 2000, 2339 minors were killed in road accidents due to drunk. This represents 36.6% of the total number of fatalities in accidents of young people. Despite the fact that everyone knows about the dangers of drunk driving, too much teen gets behind the wheel after drinking.

Why? I spoke to Barry, who was one of the lucky ones who stopped by the police, not the old woman with a scythe.

I was at a beach party in South Beach, where alluncontrollably around hot girls and drinking river. Around four in the morning festivities it was still in full swing, but this morning I had to start work at nine, so I just got in his car and drove away. While walking to the car, I did not feel too much kick, but when moved, I realized that great drunk. I must travel the road, because five minutes later, I saw for myself the lights. I hit a good fine, and I picked the right. That's a walk!

Borri, 17, Miami, Florida.

My mother and other parents tell me again andagain, that more than anything else they are afraid of the time when their children get the right because they can get behind the wheel while intoxicated. My mother is the speech with which she always appears, if I go somewhere with friends. I've heard it so often that I can repeat word for word. That is: »If there is anything you drink - I mean any alcohol - do not you dare get behind the wheel! Can you hear me ?! »It should be a quick answer.» Yes, Mom » »You promise?» Again, I am. »Yes, Mom» I talked to many guys who can repeat similar mandates parent: »Do not drive drunk.» Still, many guys at least once drove the car in a drunken state.

Many parents might wonder, whyBarry got behind the wheel drunk. Well, he would have said he was not too drunk. A »too drunk» - it's like? How much alcohol allows endanger your life and the lives of others? This issue is most teenagers themselves do not ask. And once your traditional teachings do not help, what else could you do? How you can help us make the right decision not to get drunk in the car, so as not to end up like Daniel?

With me were six friends and we went toa party on the occasion of the end of the school year. We were all smashed. From the very beginning I was going to drink only two glasses, because the day before we quarreled with his father, and this time, he told me to come back early. Well, I had a couple of times, then poured on top of a few bottles of beer, and I have great razvezlo. I was so afraid that my father would yell if I do not come back to 11 that, in spite of this, I decided to go. I did not even went on the road - hit a mailbox and a parked car. With me it was all right, which is not true about the machines.

Даниэль, 15 лет, Рочестер, Нью-Йорк.

I talked to some guys and someThey told me about how their parents kept them from drunken driving, making stories, like the one that happened to Daniel, for they ended differently. When I asked them why they or their friends sat behind the wheel while intoxicated, the most frequent response was that they were forced to. The plan, which is developed parents, solved this problem, and it gave young people a way out. If the teenager was at a party where drinking is accepted, and no one can take him to the house, because everyone else will be too drunk, his parents come for them themselves.

But they do not just come for their offspring, andI will not blame him for what he was at a party where drinks. When I told all this to some parents, they decided it was a great idea. They were more than inclined to apply this solution to your children. And then I told them about the more frequent and realistic version of this situation, which I and many young people are very important. Under this plan, your child not only gets into a situation where no one can take me to the house, because all drunk, but he had drunk too. Even if that happens, he can call my parents, and they will take it from any place. Still, for most teenagers, I spoke and whose parents have used such a program, it is important that they are not misused. They keep themselves in hand and do not sit behind the wheel drunk.

I talked with my mother and some of her friends onit, and they were more than frightened. Most thought it was actually ridiculous for parents - to agree with this situation and do not blame the children for what they have done wrong (not to mention the legality of such behavior), and drinking, even if they did not get behind the wheel drunk . This is reminiscent of the promotion for that child snatched his gun, but he was smart enough not to shoot at people. And, moreover, it seems that in this situation, they become a parent in some service delivery drunk home in a limousine.

I understand at 100%, where this opinion. And when I told the young people about their views on such a program, they also felt that it was unlikely do not run into problems. But some teens with whom I spoke rather sit behind the wheel drunk, than to meet face to face with the parental anger. However, I spoke with the other guys that have developed with parents a little different plan, a cross between the first and second scenarios.

My mother and father had come to save me fromalcohol. If I suddenly can not come herself, or there is no one who could give me a lift, I was allowed to call, and the parents will come for me. They will not yell at me this evening (usually they do not say a word), but the next morning we will have a serious conversation. The deal is this: if they do not yell at me before, I am obliged to listen to them later. All this does not mean that I can drink anywhere, call my father, so he came after me. This happens only when absolutely necessary.

Landa, 17 years, Amherst, Massachusetts.

Родители Ланды разработали систему, которая и разумна, и безопасна. Ланде не приходится бояться, когда она звонит родителям, потому что она знает, что на нее не будут кричать. Но она также понимает, что доставила им неудобства и поэтому обязана выслушать их, нравится ей это или нет. А их беседа имеет очень большое значение. Смотрите на это как на силовую игру в хоккее: ваш подросток нарушил правила и теперь находится на скамье штрафников. У вас есть ограниченное время, чтобы изменить счет. В нашем случае — добиться цели. Но у вас появляются более выгодные условия, потому что в отличие от частых разговоров с детьми о пьянстве сейчас вы имеете преимущество. Ваш ребенок должен вам этот разговор. Но сам факт, что вы имеете право на этот разговор, не гарантирует успеха. Подростки говорят, что вы по-прежнему должны помнить об основных правилах беседы, если хотите добиться открытого разговора, т. е. не читать нотаций, придерживаться третьего лица насколько это возможно. Все это сделает недолгий разговор по-настоящему эффективным, а подросток запомнит его.