We looked up Matt and his mother, pronedenying evil. Both of them could not accept the fact that Matt just does not know how to write an essay. No matter in what area the problem is found - in school, like Matt, in a relationship or work; the main thing here - the tendency of parents to overlook that the source of the problem is the child. They tolerate each time a problem outside, attribute it to someone or something else.
The other day I had a talk with her mother,vinivshey around football coach: her son did not get into the team, and she endlessly repeating, repeated, like a fool, and this is limited to the coach, it is not able to see the talent of her boy.
In fact, the boy was playing really out of handvery badly, and the blame for this was not the coach, but rather a father, do not pay attention to his son. However, the woman was easier to blame the coach, rather than decide on an explanation with her husband. She blames the blame on others, and eventually accustomed son in each case to find other causes and not try to improve.
Some parents »do not notice» is so hardproblems their children that endangers their lives, for example, when it comes to serious neurological disorders, affecting digestion. »No, Susie just a weak stomach» - repeats a mother. It is much easier to write off all on a bad digestion, than to look into this situation and realize that Suzy behind in emotional development. Of course, life-threatening digestive disorders - this is an extreme case, but in daily life, parents often turn a blind eye on any problems or shortcomings of their children.
Children themselves willing to deny their problems andfaults. I recently looked to friends just at the moment when their four-year old son, climbing into the forbidden room for him, and overturned bookcase packed with fragile items. I watched as a kid sneaks quietly away from the crime scene, hoping that he will not find out. I smiled to myself and called out to him:
- What's wrong, Jeffrey? Lifting his head, he forced a smile:
- Nothing! Nothing, nothing! - And ran away.
I was amused by this naive attempt to denyhappened. The boy thought that if nobody knows about his offense, he will escape punishment. Fortunately, his parents know very well how to put her son face to face with his blunders. He will learn to deal with errors.
