You are responsible and strive to fulfill any assignment perfectly? love, when workers and matters of the heart everything is going according to plan? Alas, these qualities are sometimes a source of problems.
»The colleagues have a mess on your desktop, withouttears will not look. Maybe ask her to clean up the mess? Or do it herself ... Though only 10 minutes left before the start of the working day. Better to call loved. He has an interview today, it is necessary to find out whether he is well prepared for him. »
Keeping abreast
No, this is not a quote from the diary of a female dictator,and an episode from the life of a control-freak. Under the term amusing lies entirely gloomy feature: a desire to follow everything that is happening to you and the people around you. It occurs in many, manifests itself in different ways, sometimes reaches the point of absurdity. Just like the example above, based, as they say, on a true story.
First, the desire to keep everything under controlIt may seem ordinary care. But the attention to close it differs about the same as the resort from prison: there too, like being fed, watered, sleep stack, except that the right to choose not to leave. Control-freak makes walking to attention not only others but also themselves. He does it unconsciously, although neither he nor the other is not easier from this knowledge.
Before you say »I do not exactly!»Look closely at their surroundings and remember what people say about you. »Painful tendency to control everything on the easiest way to recognize the work - says psychologist with 20 years of experience Elena Novoselova. - Colleagues in jest or in earnest throw »Chickpeas perfectionist!» Or perhaps, because of your excessive attention to detail Head requires an approach from everyone. » Another signal - a painful sense of responsibility. Worry before the deadline is perfectly normal, but in the spirit of the thought »I will die, but I will!» Should be cause for concern. Especially if, for objective reasons, the work can not be completed in time, and you sprinkle ashes on his head, blaming this yourself.
Home tyrant
It is much more difficult to recognize in the mirror of man,who unwittingly »building» close. And not because they were obediently silent. It is too difficult to distinguish between a desire to keep everything under control from the fear of social stigma.
We are brought up with settings like »A loving husbandSpends evenings at home »or»? The baby should be under supervision. » And if a woman does not call her husband to inquire when he comes from work, or - oh, horror! - Do not do with his son for five hours in a row lessons, she risks getting the title of an indifferent wife or careless mother.
Fearing to be »good enough» oftenis the basis of such behavior. Moreover, the ideal should be not only the »main skeet» but all around. My favorite man says no compliments as often as you could? It is worth paying attention to is his. Not happy to present, that you so carefully chose? What ingratitude! I think my mother's passion for shoes is beyond the reasonable limits. We must stop it. It is not permissible under its salary!
»People who have a passion for control,always find a lot of iron arguments, - says Elena Novoselova. - »Too expensive,» »dangerous,» »injurious to health». They believe that without their intervention close necessarily hurt yourself, home or family budget. The younger sister die of hunger, is to go on a business trip for three days, and her husband certainly will lead the other, if not check his phone. »
