Most of us under the word »treason» understandSex on the side, paying little attention to seemingly innocent flirting or affection for »a friend.» However, emotional betrayal for relationships is also devastating!
Emotional cheating. not considered?
HOW IT HAPPENS
Sometimes it happens that your colleague at work or someone else, begins to attract you more than your boyfriend or even your husband ...
Everything begins quite harmlessly: You are sure that you are bound only by friendly relations. Perhaps, at first it is so. However, over time, you catch yourself thinking that you miss your »friend», more often than necessary, think about him and even ... look for a meeting! ? Negotiations on personal topics, a joint lunch or a walk, the exchange of disks or books - very little is needed in order for you to fall into the trap.
Calming down and justifying yourself by the fact that you are »only friends» and you »keep everything under control,» that you like it »just like a man,» you are becoming more and more attached to a new »friend.»
Psychologists warn you: if you value your constant relationship with a guy or husband, it's better to stop - after all, from emotional to physical treason, one step!
PICs? BUT: DANGEROUS AREA!
The first sign that »something is wrong» isYour discomfort: you yourself begin to feel that you are doing not what you need, and sometimes even ashamed of your thoughts and emotions! Analyze your feelings for your new »friend», if you answer in the affirmative at least 1-2 questions - beware: you are in a dangerous zone!
1. Was she dreaming about her new »friend»: about walks, conversations, etc.?
2. Have you ever met your new »friend», hiding it from your boyfriend / husband?
3. Have you ever told yourself: »He understands me much better than my boyfriend / husband!»?
4. Did it happen that you said »friend» something that you would not have said with your boyfriend / husband?
5. Sexual life and emotional connection with your boyfriend / husband worries you less and less?
6. Would you like to touch your »friend»: at least accidentally by hand or shoulder or by transferring an item?
7. Did you imagine that your boyfriend / husband is leaving you / for a long time leaving / dying - in fact now you can spend more time safely with a new »friend»?
8. Have you often been angry with your boyfriend / husband, comparing him to a new »friend»?
9. Did you ever get into a difficult situation and ask for help or support for a new »friend», not for your boyfriend / husband?
10. Did you ever catch yourself thinking: »This song would have liked my» friend »!», »This is his favorite film - you need to see it!», »I wonder how he would react to this?», Etc.?
HOW TO STOP?
If I firmly decided to stop, then:
• Immediately give up any contact with your »friend» - whether it's phone calls, sms, chat conversations, etc .;
• Throw out all the pictures and things that would remind you of him;
• it will be fine if you do not see each otherBut it can be difficult if you work together - in this case, try to talk to him dryly, only on business and under no circumstances go to the discussion of personal issues!
If you decided not to succumb to temptation, then know,That even after emotional betrayal, to establish a relationship with a guy / husband is not easy. ? To ask or not about this episode to a partner - decide for yourself. Try to return to your relationship with your partner the former warmth, walk together, go on a trip, spend a weekend in nature, arrange a romantic dinner!
But as you know, it is easier to prevent thanTo treat, therefore it is better to care of that to keep with your constant partner love and trust - then also the probability of that you will pay attention to another, will be insignificant!
