At different stages of development of the child's formula is not changing, only the context of its application.

Baby do not need to learn from the loss - his birthitself entails the loss, separation from love and truth. Inside the baby emptiness reigns, there is no love or reliability. Babies do not need a reality - she was with him.

Here's how the process works for the baby:

Pain → → incorporation of consolation consolation to the next experience pain → pain → consolation incorporation of consolation to the next experience pain, etc. →

The boundaries are the baby at birth, separation frommother - this is the reality, because the inside of the baby yet incorporated love. Hunger and other needs overwhelm the baby with his head. To convert them, need love and comfort. It is not necessary to wean the infant from selfishness, we must first satisfy their needs. So you tell him to experience »good», and it is good to help him digest and transform »evil».

That's why impossible to spoil a baby. Pampered

- Means accustom to avoid self-reliance and responsibility, and the baby is cut off from love and is not able to bear the responsibility. Even the word that is designated in the Bible weaning, literally means »to be generous.» We must continually comfort a baby, he was able to incorporate parental care and compassion; they will allow him to accept the reality of the future. this cycle

- A permanent transition from pain to the satisfaction -It lays the foundations for undifferentiated perception of »good» and »bad» experience. In the minds of a framework by which the child will later he comforted himself. If you will be subjected to a young child too long, absorbing states of pain and fear, not giving him comfort, the child does not acquire those psychic »organs» that allow a person to metabolize the »bad» experience. The ability to »digest» a bad experience can fully develop in the future, if you are in early childhood form the basis of the nature of love and comfort.

Only people who do not understand the thought processesbaby, can claim that the baby is trying to »manipulate» their parents, and that it must wean from self-interest. A baby just has »no brains» to conceive of such a plan, he writhes in despair and in need of reassurance. At this stage of his life, he has to understand that the mercy overcomes a painful reality. It will serve as a basis for further education. You love the baby, and your love will save him from despair.