? To look at a tyrant man is very difficult.Such a man can create a false impression of himself, he often is in the center of attention and in public he is simply an ideal of caring and love for his chosen one. And if your young man seems to you the top of dreams, and beautiful courtship and romantic moments have already turned your head, try to pull yourself together and look at the situation soberly!
1. The loss of control over a. ? Anxiety, rage, scream, rudeness inThe influence of other people ... Your chosen one simply can not control himself! Be careful: in the future such unbridled anger (and even assault) of a domestic tyrant can be directed at you!
2.? Ordination. The tendency to despotism and jealousy often gohand in hand. After all, for a man-tyrant girl (and future wife) - his property. It is only at first jealousy can show you one more proof of love. Later, you expect a total ban is not only friendship, but also in conversations with other men! However, even fulfilling these requirements, you will still be constantly suspected of treason.
3. Pseudo-care. You think he was genuinely worried andworried about you when he said: »This friend laughs at you, this - awful dresses that - flirt»? He constantly makes remarks: not as the length of the skirt is too bright color, low or high heels ... This book will not do you good, and the music is bad, at a party you do not and are not saying something or village somehow »wrong» too late or too early to get up, did not consult with him about the choice of toilet water, you can do it there or not there, your views are out of date, or vice versa - you're too lightly accept new things ... In short, whatever you did not do - everything will be criticized! Do you still feel that he cares about you?
4. Sorry, but does not discuss the reason for the quarrel. Ask for forgiveness for him - not a problem. He will utter a bunch of warm words, however, waiting for your forgiveness - all over again, often in the same day.
5. A lot of talks about the division of responsibilities in the family. Moreover, it allows expressions such as: »Shut up, you must decide a man», »I am a man, here and listen to me», »I am a man - you're not going anywhere!». Of course, it is nice when the husband takes responsibility, protecting his wife, makes important decisions, but if you hear expressions like that even before the wedding, after her run the risk does not have voting rights in the family.
What to do to get along with the tyrant? You have to be very calm, answering without emotion, not criticize it, not to express their views and principles, and often agree with him, tell where and with whom you are, at a minimum to maintain relationships with friends or male colleagues, all purchases, actions , ideas, travel, etc. to discuss in detail with him ...
In short, to build relationships with hard tyrant, butcan. But before you make such a choice, think: do you need it? After a tyrannical man is almost impossible to keep him. However, the selection - just for you!
Not invented? AI
Irina (26 years): »We met two years. At first everything was fine. I felt over the moon - it seemed such a caring guy I met in my life more than ever! However, in the second year of our relationship, I heard the first alarm bells: the favorite began to call me and verify where and who I am. Even I did not like! Further more. Checks my sms, first insistent advice, and then almost put the orders or other clothing, prohibitions to communicate with the same friends. Once he threw a tantrum because I invited a girlfriend home without his knowledge - I decided I've had enough! »
Maria (27 years): »... At first, I found him very caring: He asked where I was worried about how I'll make it, or I shall reach somewhere, that I eat, I get dressed like ... Then he began to criticize everything: my views, hobbies, plans, ideas and dreams - it was not so! And the only one he knew how it should be! I tried to translate everything into a joke, but because of this, he was angry even more ... »
Olga (24 years): »Igor just like my parents - they say,such a positive and neat young man. And I initially thought so. Only a few months later the problems started: he wanted to know everything - where and with whom I am, to talk to anyone - even at work! Do not speak with male colleagues, one day there was a scandal because of the fact that I congratulated an old friend on his birthday. I constantly had the feeling that he wants to keep not an adult female and a gray mouse, which has no principles or attitudes. Igor was older than me for 6 years - a little, but he believed that the right to tell me what I should do, do or not do to learn, comes to the absurd: he wanted me to listen to some music (which he considered good), watching certain movies, friends with certain people ... »
