noblesse oblige
»I seem to be the teacher, and I was entrustedbaby to look after him, feed him, to grow, to protect. This is my work and responsibility, but the child is not mine - I just keep an eye on them, and then give it to the parents. Just as long as it is inside me. » Our interlocutor with the telling name Nadezhda 31 years old, she is married and lives with his parents and daughter in a private house and honestly admits to surrogacy pushed unresolved housing problem. Almost all women who dared to take this step have similar goals - we need the money for housing, school, their own children, just to live. But classing them to dysfunctional contingent hardly true, because the basic requirement for them - good health. »A woman of 35 years, not smoking, not drinking, not to use drugs, with negative tests for all kinds of infections, without chronic diseases, no abortion, but normal pregnancy and natural childbirth history.» - Marina Kim gives clearly understand: really distressed, irresponsible pretender hardly meet such stringent conditions.
These general conditions for all clinics, their advancesMinistry of Health: in the databases of surrogate mothers, existing at the centers of reproduction - only tested and thoroughly examined female candidates. Another important requirement - psychological stability. After all, if the surrogate mother suddenly raschuvstvuetsya and decides to leave the baby itself, the law is on her side. »I do not give the child was difficult, although after childbirth come for some peace of devastation. There were difficult moments, when passed by mothers with newborns-too wanted hugged her baby. I really would like to congratulate the parents after birth, embrace the biological mother, but they were against - were afraid that I saw them with the child feel something. » Our heroine's story a happy ending: the parents found their child, Hope decided financial issues.
? AZAM AND FEELINGS
Minimization of medical and legal risks,Multi-page financial layout, careful selection of donors, doctors, clinics - conception, bearing and birth of a child using methods B? T on the organization of the process is like a business project. And this is the main danger, says the reproductive psychologist, Professor Galina Filippova: »? Auditors in such situations, as a rule, concentrate on the material side of the question, on physiology and are practically not engaged in preparing for what they will have a child, for informed parenting. »
This also applies to couples who are planning a pregnancy with IVF, and particularly those who use the services of surrogate mothers.
»In the process of carrying a child in the motherformed a certain relationship with them, as in the case of surrogacy, it is not. Now in fact, even for the adoptive parents have mandatory school, and people here no one is preparing for what will give them to the hands of the newborn right from the kind of room. There are wonderful parents who are »included» and are very good, but there are also those who is not very good. » - And those with other Galina Filippova constantly faced in practice. For clarification: that is, as a psychologist for the parents and the surrogate mother (to prepare it for the fact that the child will have to pay) is needed in this case, by default, as a lawyer and the reproductive system? Russia's leading expert on reproductive and perinatal psychology in response to this question sighs: »I would like to.»
In 2013, in the media and social networks is activelyThe statement of the chief psychiatrist of the Ministry of Health was discussed? F Zurab Kekelidze. »Rapid development of obstetrics and gynecology, nursing children from 500 grams, surrogate motherhood and so on - this is another big problem of psychiatry. As psychologists say, these (born with the use of BT) children, they are »cold,» the professor said at the opening of the Fifth National Congress on Social Psychiatry. Professor Filippova, who constantly works with »these» children and their parents, explains: »You see, all forms of attachment disorders develop not in the womb, but after the birth of the child. The most important thing for a baby is parental involvement, attention, warmth, caring. If all this is, it does not matter how the child was born. »
Content:
1. Part I;
2. Part II;
3. Part III (You read that section);
4. Part IV.
