Training, training and more time training. That's what really focus all of these conversations. We must be prepared for difficult situations that may arise (and maybe not any) in our future, but we will have to deal with them yourself. With the aggravation of this problem is the use of drugs that could potentially threaten our life, there often enough.
Разговоры о наркотиках, так же как и о сексе, я назвал беседами «Не делай этого», потому что основная идея, которую родители высказывают здесь, — «Не делай этого». Но даже тут возможны разные подходы в отдельных семьях. В вопросах секса некоторые родители, возможно, скажут: «Не занимайся сексом, пока не будешь учиться в колледже, или до определенного возраста, или пока не заведешь свою семью. И даже потом относись к этому с ответственностью». Что же касается наркотиков, то здесь чаще всего слова звучат так: «Никогда не пробуй их».
Conversations »Do not do it» may be the mostdifficult for you and your child, and the two sides are likely to be avoiding them. But the consequences of such deviations worse than the short-lived discomfort and awkwardness while talking. And the more complex the topic of conversation, the more we need your help.
CAN YOU MAKE CHANGE
Well, I'm sure that you're thinking: »I know I need to talk with their children about drugs, but whether this provides something?» I asked the same question to teenagers: »Can what parents say and how they say it, in fact, change your attitude to drugs ? »The answer stunned me:» Yes! Well, maybe». Yes, most teenagers are very eager to hear from parents all they can talk about this, and perhaps the efficacy of this conversation depends on how parents talk to them.
Teenagers are very openly shared with me theirthoughts on how you could make your conversation about drugs more accessible and therefore more productive. And most importantly, in doing so, you get more chances to influence their attitude to drugs and sex.
So here it is, a sensation!
»We better listen when you start a conversation in a timely manner»
In different ages have a conversation about drugsdifferent results. It is sure that you would not be news if you can start a conversation with her daughter about drugs before they try it, you have a much better chance to achieve understanding and its impact on her decision. If it is already beginning to use them, you have a completely different problem: try to get her to stop doing it. It does not matter that you did not know about her preferences from the start.
To keep your conversations about the dangers of drug use becamemore effective, they must start with young children. That's what I often encountered when communicating with teenagers: the most successful talk appeared with younger teenagers, say, aged 11-13, and less successful with older, 16-18 years (mean age of 14 to 15 years of talks also had high efficiency). Adults Teens often talks to parents take their decision in this regard: they either already tried drugs or decided never to contact them. Younger teenagers barely have already tried them and think they know everything about them, that they ought to know. Therefore, you are more likely to talk to them. But we all know that wisdom does not always come with age. Some teens grow faster than others, so you should choose the very best time to talk. My mother led me talk about drugs almost from infancy. Of course I do not recommend such early talks to take over the rule, but the idea is this: the sooner the better.
Не помню, когда мои родители не говорили бы мне про наркотики и про то, насколько они опасны. Родители некоторых моих друзей делали то же самое, но это все равно не удержало их детей. Со мной все не так. Знаю, вы могли бы сказать, что вся эта дрянь просто убивает.
Sarah, 16, Fort Collins, Colorado.
I often laughed at Sarah for her feardrugs, but not now. I started smoking weed when I was 14 because I heard about it at school, and I thought it was funny. I smoked for quite some time, about six months when one day my mother came to me and offered to sit down, and then said: »I want to talk to you about ... a fool.» She said, as if he was not sure how to say the word - the word of four letters, how difficult! She asked if I had heard ever about this, and I said, »I think so. What is it? »Thank God that I did not talk to Nakuru, and simply would have died laughing. And then I started to think: Maybe Sarah and law. I see some of my friends are simply abnormal because of the constant smoking. I think maybe I slow down a bit.
Michelle (girlfriend Sarah), 16, Fort Collins, Colorado.
And does it make sense to start talking about drugs,if you did not speak with her daughter until she was 16 years old? All the girls in a conversation with me answered »yes.» Yes, the earlier we start talking, the better. But teens of all ages and experience in the use of drugs told me that there is always a way to make them understand the problem and better prepare for the time when parents will not be there, and make a decision to have a teenager.
»We want to hear from all of you, not just at school»
Like many children, I have been studying the problem of drugs inschool in a special program. This program is aimed at the education of children in the field of drugs; 60% of primary school students in the United States pass the course of literacy. The program is designed to educate children about drugs and prevent their use among children. In theory, that's all great, but in practice, the effectiveness of these programs is very limited. Studies show that statistically there are no large differences in the number of child addicts among those who took a course and who have not received it. I passed this course myself, so I did not study much surprised, but many parents, whom I told about this, were visibly shocked. For example, many parents believe that their children receive full information about drugs through such programs. Some of the parents believe that if someone communicates such information to children, they, in turn, do not necessarily.
Anyway, you should talk with their children about these issues. In adolescents, a lot of misunderstanding in matters of drug trafficking; these
issues of literacy programs is not clear. And as between parents and their teenage children do not have strong habits of dialogue, questions and wrong judgments do not receive the necessary explanations.
What do I think about drugs? Well, heroin and crack - this is still stuff, but marijuana and LSD are not anything terrible. Look at the 60s. If it was so dangerous, our parents would not be here now.
Barth, 17 years old, stick, Kansas.
I'm not saying that Bart thinks vitamin LSDthrough the school curriculum, but it seems that teenagers sometimes hear what they want to hear in school workshops on drug issues. A selective listening on such dangerous topics can lead to serious negative consequences.
What do I think about drugs? Well, I think everyone knows that ecstasy - a wonderful thing. Some scholars say that it is harmless. But I would never touched heroin and similar stuff.
Дэн, 16 лет, Литл-Рок, Арканзас.
Do not all speak the same thing, Bart and Dan, but the truth is that there is a misconception, and it is very dangerous. But you can put an end to it.
Not to say that the children believed such programsuseless. Just think, we have more »knowledge» about drugs from friends, on TV and in movies. And no matter how we trust such sources of information, they are not the ones that you, the parents would use to convey accurate information about drug use.
Just as there are parents who believethat the goods have conversations on the subject of drugs withdrawn from their shoulders a special school program, there are parents who think they do not have to make a special effort, because children receive all necessary information on television. And we know that the media sometimes cloud the issue, and where it comes to drugs, should see things as clearly as possible.
I know a lot about drugs. A lot of programs have seen on television, I watched a lot of films about drugs, so say I know much more than those who do not see anything.
Greg, 14 years, Lyons, Illinois.
Yes, it's true, Greg really knowmany of the drugs from the media, perhaps even more than their parents. But there is only one way to make sure that your children get the right information - to pass it by.
