Разговоры с подростками о бесконтрольном пьянстве очень важны. Но что вы делаете, когда подозреваете, что у вашего ребенка есть с этим проблемы? По словам подростков, вам сначала следует сравнить свои подозрения с действительными признаками, говорящими о проблеме пьянства, чтобы не обвинить свою дочь напрасно. Существует множество веб-сайтов, где имеется необходимая информация.
Mom held a party 4th of July. Everyone was drinking, and to me nobody cared. I had a great time, being »under the weather», like all the others. The next morning, my mother came into my room, sat on the edge of the bed and said, »Ben, you do not want to admit that you have a problem?» I could not understand what she says. And she went on, I had a drinking problem, and I have to admit it. When I asked why she thinks she replied that, whatever I saw, I hops. Then I asked, when she saw it. It turned out, once the last party. I only could, that laugh.
Бен, 18 лет, Рамона, Канзас.
Unfair daughter accused of drunkenness is notIt brings nothing but alienation. If you go to the confrontation with their child with no real evidence of having had such problems, it will be very easy to dismiss all of your charges. From conversations with teenagers, I realized that the confrontation should not be your first step. If you suspect problems with the daughter in drunkenness, your first step should be a conversation in which she would have to admit to herself. If you do not help, then, in my opinion, you should try to find a more positive way even if the confrontation. I can not say that teenagers are taking this strategy, but if you already have resorted to other, more lenient means, and they did not work, I'm sure you'll want to try this option.
When resort to it, think about this. According to the guys, you have a greater chance of a successful confrontation when you are acting, understanding and compassion, rather than blaming, anger and talking about betrayal. Perhaps you find it hard to hide these feelings, but the teenagers quickly notice them and do not want to talk if they see an approximation argument instead of the conversation.
I understand from talking to the guys, theyrespond when they asked about friends of friends. Once parents begin to talk about the use of alcohol, they are asked if they know anyone with problems in relation to alcohol dependence. Under the brand of your baby discreetly tells you about any alcohol problem, perhaps taking place in his life, without feeling that gives important information about yourself or your close friends. Then you can talk to your teenager about the »other children» and try to understand why »they» drink and how »they» help.
This method is most effective with thoseyoung people who are aware of the possibility of their problems (but studies show that very few of them). Therefore, part of the conversation, you can dedicate that creates the problem. Thus, young people can see themselves in the mirror of communication that you hold in front of them.
