ABYUZE? AND LEARNING ON THE POVERS

He must rule, so he is often inclined to total control and attacks of jealousy. Which justifies, of course, strong feelings:
• is distrustful and suspicious, fixed on small things;
• sometimes suffers from sudden mood jumps and weak self-control: '' Sorry, flushed, dear '
• is predisposed to lie and shifting guilt to someone else's fragile shoulders;
• Can show resilience and vulnerability (that's why I did not take the phone for a week);
• has high ideals, which can not be touched with dirty hands;
• often suffers from psychological disorders, such as narcissism, psychopathy, sociopathy;
• and most importantly, what you need to know: it is impossible to build a happy relationship with him.

»Household» emotional rapists, as in the film»My King», do not hide the manners already in the first days of acquaintance - these and get around easier. But to figure out the »professional» Abyu-zera, even Sherlock Holmes is not always on the teeth: such a character can be intelligent, intelligent, prudent, knows how to carefully adjust his behavior, winning a victim. But there are bells that should sound in your head in alarm. Be attentive if:
• You are suddenly denied the right to say »no». Even when it comes to trivial matters, your opinion is important;
• A man strongly insists on his own, does not accept your unwillingness to do or feel something;
• The guy is lying to get your consent. Again, it does not matter what is at issue, even if he has deceived you into a carousel;
• he behaves aggressively;
• depreciates your feelings, your arguments.

WHAT WAS THAT WILL BE

First - a cloudless idyll, paradise hides andUnbridled dreams about the future. The lady in love idealizes the partner, his shortcomings do not look out from under the floor, and the look is full of love. The second phase is depreciation. The Prince shows that prosperity is hampered by some shortcomings of the partner. ? Can you be happy when your girl is two minutes late? Or morbidly jealous: she made a scandal because she found someone else's lipstick in his bathroom. Or she, the little fool, does not understand the political situation in Bolivia. Then one of you will have to go down from the tenth heaven to the most inferno and stay there as long as possible, because the next stage is disposal. The suffering character remains on the splinters of dreams, the abuser tramples the wreckage with an injured face and rushes to new conquests.

Naive rapist really can sincerelyTo think that she does not do anything wrong: since the girl has ceased to stir up, she is to blame for this, we must notify her of female inconsistency, or even to show clearly. Suddenly this will help her to improve? Even if the victim suspects that the problem is not in her, it's difficult to get rid of the obsession caused by the ideal phase: he's good, just confused, besides, I have a stale manicure ...

Teen motivators with black hearts»Love is pain!» Illustrate well the relationship with a guy who self-affirms at someone else's expense. In the makeweight you will have doubts and anxiety, self-doubt (»Maybe he's right?»), Problems with trust, feelings of fear and devastation, depressive moods. Moreover, in the agonizing search for the answer to the question »How could he?», You risk not noticing that the tightness of your personality is broken and every trash climbs into the ship. Since emotional rapists are subtle manipulators, you can think for a long time that something is wrong with you, but he is a great guy.

The most common problem of people who have warmed up abuzOn the chest, doublethink. This word was introduced by the writer Orwell, referring to the ability to adhere to two contradictory statements: »He humiliates me - he wishes me well,» »I should not suffer so much - I deserved it» ... A kind of protective mechanism of your brain that tries to rationalize the situation and in The same time does not hurt you. But the constant throwing between the idealization of »he is a prince» and the miserable reality of »my guy - a psycho» can deplete any most iron lady.

Content:

1. Part I;
2. Part II (You read that section);
3. Part III;
4. Part IV.