A cruel romance. Part III

HOW TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE COME

Today your man is very out of sorts and constantly criticizes everything. Hell, what if it's emotional violence? Maybe he has eaten you for a long time, but you did not know?

ABOUT? ATTENTION AT SUCH MOMENTS:
1. If a dude recalls salted soup every day and brings you to despair and hatred for pots - this is a problem. It's another matter when he once commented on a failed dish, and inside you a drama broke out and settled for that you are a worthless cook and a bad woman. If a man is not an abuser, he will not be happy with such a scenario, but will try to separate your personality from soup, and flies from cutlets. Our expert Anna is sure that the relationship of a girl who habitually is in the position of a victim, and a guy who does not like the role of a despot, will not last long.

2. Find out what the partner is trying to achieve. He can not arrange scenes, but, for example, it's quiet and unpleasant to be tired. Or pretend to sigh. Or even do not say anything, but ignore you. The situation changes when you show submission, ask forgiveness, or make concessions? Well, hello to the manipulator.

3. In general, a normal person is not a pleasure when his girlfriend is unwell. If you constantly have to repent for some mistakes and sins and lie in wait for the danger to say or do something wrong - you have to run. What do you feel when you are in this relationship? If your constant companions are anxiety, guilt or aggression, something goes wrong. Couples are created just for the opposite purpose - to feel good together, to feel the sun warming and emotional well-being on all sides.

HOW TO LEAVE AND NOT BEE? NOTHING

For a while, an abuser can be awfully nice andTo maintain the illusion of »life is improving.» But, unfortunately, you can not re-educate him, especially if you act alone. Can you imagine how the game »to the teacher» of a person who likes to pull others for the strings of the soul can carry away? Here is the expanse for emotions: both happy ups and despair - after all, your personal happiness is at stake.

In an amicable way, one must move away from this type, butIt's painful and difficult to dare to do this in an instant: emotional rapists can arrange enchanting punks, put pressure on the sick, lie to your common friends and acquaintances, turn everything upside down and put it back in disassembled form.

There is only one way to make him lose toYou interest: remove the scene, dramatic make-up, hide emotions and turn into a boring, prescient woman. This role is also difficult, because the guy, of course, knows all your Achilles heels. Do not lead, do not feed him with tragedies, do not show that he has some power over you, show love for macrame and gingerbread, and everything else - let him roll with his horse.

For the future - take care of your boundaries: Not allow all counter-transverse to step over them - perhaps, the only way not to get involved in dangerous connections. If you chronically get on the guys-loonies, go to therapy to sort out yourself. This does not pass by itself.