Psychologists say that the second marriage for womenoften becomes happier than the first, especially if her choice had already had experience of family life. The explanation is quite simple: a woman who for a time put up with the shortcomings of another person and put up family life, which it is partially or completely not satisfied before remarry spends a lot of time to weigh all the »pros and cons». First marriage often conclude at an early age, when it is very difficult to look at the quality of the chosen soberly and impartially - these marriages of passion that turns a blind eye to many of the shortcomings. But, as is well known, a passion rarely lasts more than two years, followed by a period of enlightenment and all the »corners» of family life become apparent from becoming more acute every year. When you open the discrepancy selected partner model of family life that nurtures confidence every woman, there is a feeling of disappointment and youthful maximalism does not understand that all people are imperfect and have to try to adapt to each other, together building a smooth and friendly relations.
Сразу после развода женщинам свойственно винить в крушении брачных уз своих бывших мужей, однако верно утверждение о том, что в разводе всегда виноваты двое. С течением времени, приобретая жизненный опыт, повзрослевшая женщина начинает понимать, что во многом сама не смогла сгладить эти самые «углы», не проявив мудрость и терпимость, дальновидность, и не став хранительницей семейного очага. Так же очевидным становится и то, что выбирать супруга нужно не по одной лишь любви, но и по расчету, как бы банально это не звучало. Расчет заключается не в подсчете материальных благ, которыми может одарить новый избранник, а в том, сможет ли он стать хорошей опорой, крепким плечом, как он будет относиться к ребенку от первого брака, если он есть. Этот расчет, основанный на прежних ошибках, приобретенном опыте и мудрости, закладывает первый камень в крепкий фундамент нового брака. Если учесть, что будущий супруг переживает сходные чувства, и так же рассматривает перспективы будущего брака со всех сторон, правда, расставляя немного другие приоритеты (красива ли, сексуальна ли, устраивает ли в постели, хорошая ли хозяйка, спокойный ли характер, ласковая ли мать), то становится ясно, что при таких удвоенных усилиях у этого брака есть все шансы на долгую и счастливую историю.
In addition, having a bitter experience frustration,wife pay more attention to an important »detail», which then may destroy the happiness: bad habits, relationships with parents, the presence of a potentially »dangerous» for marriage friends, respect for the opposite sex. However, in a new relationship the couple is much more willing to make concessions and easier to look at many things, which were set up in the irreconcilable past relationships.
Of great importance for the success of his second marriagehas financial stability - to unite their destinies already a mature people, spouses together calculate your budget, come to a mutually beneficial agreement, create a strong alliance in domestic terms. Most people have been together in the age of thirty years, and has combined the total fine view on life, common interests, common friends and often work.
The culmination of such a marriage is the birthjoint child. This child, as a rule, is not only planned, but also look forward - it does not interfere with the plans of parents, as career development is already underway, it became the center of family life, and doubles the feeling of harmony and happiness. Typically, such a family and a child from his first marriage gets a lot of attention and love and growing happier, which is very important for women who often feel guilty for having a child is deprived of attention from the biological father. This scenario is the development of relations, we recall, is possible only in the case when adults tend to analyze at first marriage failures and deliberately avoid repeating past mistakes.
