1. The child has no ability to make a decision

He does not dare to take the most trivial decisions. Afraid of new beginnings, even if he is offered help.

When something is asked, he answers; »I do not know how to do it».

He does not ask that it is currently necessary.

2. Ребенок уходит в мир грез и фантазий

It is not easy to decide to play with other children or participate in joint activities.

Do not come into contact with other children on his own initiative.

It does not protect yourself by word or deed.

Afraid to ask questions or answer them.

It responds only to direct questions.

Shows coldness or lack of affection.

Unusually spends much time in seclusion.

Unusually spends much time watching TV or reading.

He prefers imaginary friends present.

3. Рецидивы умышленного непослушания

Too often it is biting, fighting, kicking beats and so on. D. Customarily lying or stealing.

He is trying to attract the attention of unlawful actions.

All the while behaving foolishly or interfere with others. Shows excessive desire to compete with the other children,

4. Unhealthy attempts to please others

Constantly »gives» something to people, trying to »buy» their location or friendship.

Bring items from home to gain the approval of the teacher and friends.

All the time asking, »Do you like me?»

5. Whining and crying

Crying, pouting, or make a scene every time he fails to succeed.

He complains: »They do not like me,» or »They do not want to play with me.»

Shows fear when she left with a nurse, a teacher, or a new person.

6. voltage

Wets the bed.

He beats his head.

Bites his nails.

Stuttered.

Everywhere is a blanket, pacifier, or any toy.

7. Degrading yourself and others

Names of other children insulting words like »baby» or »stupid.»

It is critical and all the time someone condemns.

He blames others for their own mistakes.

He finds excuses for his behavior.

Customarily gossip.

He says something like: »I am better than you.»

8. Physical data

Overweight.

He says hesitantly, in a weak voice.

It has sloppy and unkempt appearance.

He is sitting hunched and drooping shoulders.

The corners of his mouth dropped, his eyes not shine.

Avert their eyes, can not stand anyone's direct gaze.

Before drawing hasty conclusions onBased on its observations, please remember that a normal child does not mean - the perfect child. Do not panic if your child appears periodically one or two symptoms, pay more attention to the frequent recurrence of certain behaviors. So far, no attempt to make an exhaustive list of symptoms. much more important Trends. If your child consistently exhibits the same behavior patterns over a sufficiently long period of time, then you will likely need to find ways to fix him low self-esteem.

Please pay attention to the following pattern: worse behaved child, the more he longs for approval. The more often a child does not listen, the more active it bothers you. The more closed or obnoxious, he seems to you, the more he craves attention and acceptance. The more pronounced the protective mechanisms, isolation or disobedience, the greater the need, he (or she) experience. But too often these pesky defense mechanisms make parents and teachers more strictly punish, correct and criticize the one who is most in need of love and comfort. Protective mechanisms used by the child, reduce its ability to win the love and favor, to which he aspires, and thus, the parent and the child caught in a vicious circle. Most of the defense mechanisms can explain the secret conviction of the child that it is no good, that it is bad and does not deserve love.