When you realize what it means to communicate with the child in the character level, and begin to apply this knowledge in practice, you will realize that real the problem is not that bothered you initially. The character - is a way of perceiving the world and the child's own activity in it.

Character can not be considered in a microscope, it is impossibletouch. If you use the term from the field of computer technology, the nature - it is a basic program, imprinted in the child's brain. You can only watch the way he perceives life.

The child's behavior, his attitude to the world, itemotions - are indicators that would reveal the peculiarities of his character. Careful observation will give you an idea of ​​how to ensure your child an experience that will help it to develop and improve in a particular area.

This principle is demonstrated in the parable of Jesus aboutfruits: »Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit» (Matthew 7:17). Nature tree is known by its fruit, the nature of the child - for his actions. When a problem arises, do not focus all the attention on the fruit, and analyze the roots.

Pat, my friend's daughter Amanda, she studied in the secondclass. She began to constantly complain about their closest girlfriends: either they do not pay attention to it, the hurt, the fun of it. Almost every day she came home from school in tears.

Amanda realized that the problem was not»Bad girlfriends» and »overly demanding» Pat. Pat's friends were not free to build a relationship with her. For Amanda, this situation served as a warning signal, and she began working with Pat on her character. They discussed in detail the problem. Especially helped by the fact that Amanda stopped taking side of Pat in conflict with my friends, but instead gently explained to his daughter that friends should provide each other with freedom of choice. After that Pat gave up »the victim posture» and she learned how to identify their own role in the ensuing conflict.

»Fruits» - such as the tendency of a child whining, capricious, bite - are alarming, annoying parents, bringing them a keen sense of disappointment.

Undoubtedly, it is necessary to establish certainboundaries for children's behavior and punish the child if necessary, but do not dwell on it. Behavior - is a signal to parents, showing that something goes wrong with the growth and development of the child, it's time to step in and help their child reach the next level.

Thus, defining a common vision and goal of allworking parents - to educate a child character, we come to the following two chapters, which deals with the factors by which God provides the spiritual growth of the child. These factors mercy, truth and time.