Karen and Dan discuss the behavior of his twelve son Jason. They have argued many times on the same subject. Now the main point of discussion was his studies at school.

- He has to understand that not everything in life goes easy - Dan said. - Every night when I come home from work, I find that he did not even thought about homework.

- Of course, dear, - Karen cooed. - But he's only twelve, and he is too small for his age, it's so hard to get along with peers. We must actively encourage it. The boy must be confident in yourself, you can not always poking his nose in that it is something not cope.

— Что значит «тыкать ему в нос»? Разве я тычу ему в нос? Я пытаюсь помочь ему вырасти. В его возрасте я разносил по утрам газеты, занимался спортом и к тому же получал хорошие оценки.

- Of course of course. But you're so energetic, but he is different. Jason is very vulnerable, it needs support so that he can feel good boy. I am very concerned that it has reduced self-esteem.

- Self-esteem! What are you talking about?! Leave your pseudopsychological you talk! There will he no sense of self-esteem, while the guy did not take the case. He turns into a loser, and you calmly watch as it rolls down! - Dan felt a sharp disappointment. He always thought that Karen too indulges children and Jason first.

- Here you go again call him a loser! How does he cope with life, if you are all the time makes the boy feel to anything not suitable?

- Because what I need from him just a littleDiscipline, he already feels to nothing suitable? Comes home from school all day playing, it gets what it wants, and you're letting it all.

— Вовсе нет. Просто мне кажется, что мальчику совершенно необязательно каждый день выслушивать замечания и призывы стать лучше, лучше, лучше. Дети прекрасно справляются, когда их подбадривают, а не тогда, когда им постоянно указывают на их неудачи. Разве ты забыл, как тебе доставалось от отца?

- Yes, Father I have been harsh with me, but it went to mebenefit - Dan replied. - Look what I have accomplished, and not because I am peddling cakes to milkshakes, to comfort the slightest trouble. To the child of something happened, it should be a good push. - Then let Dan in case heavy artillery. - The Bible says that we must understand God's requirements and live in accordance with them. You'll never make a child look into the eyes of reality and thus spoiling it. But we were hoping this time to raise a child in a godly.

Dan meant that the eldest son, Ben, theyThey raised before converted to Christianity. Ben had a lot of problems in adolescence and later, Dan and Karen Jason vowed to grow in line with biblical principles.

- The truth - that's what he needs! - Dan insisted. - It is better he realizes it now than when it is too late.

- But this does not reduce the Bible - it was onher Karen. - Scripture teaches us mercy and compassion. You are so hard on the boy when he does not justify your expectations. How could he accept the grace of God, if we do all the time makes him feel guilty?

Dan shook his head, sighed, and went into another room, and Karen went to treat son vanilla ice cream. Rest of the evening, Dan and Karen dulis each other.