More recently on the internet roseTopic # gorzhusmaterinstvom flashmob, which promoted the view that breastfeed in public is normal. But to get involved in the debate I made is not material, and comments on it, which caused a massive shitstorm.

Maybe it's all my innate naivety, but II thought that such views as »doing it in a public place without special scarves is simply disgusting,» or »the appearance of some mothers who are fed, can also induce a gag reflex ...» does not already exist. I sincerely believed that they died out with dinosaurs, or at least with CCC? , But, as it turned out, I was very mistaken.

On public morality guard

Paradoxically, but the greatest indignation andprotest against breastfeeding women show it in public places, most of them are also mothers. Many equate feeding the baby in public places almost to the »act of exhibitionism», arguing that the woman exposes breasts for my own pleasure.

But experts explain this strange at firstA view of the pattern of elementary fury of some women upon themselves. A person unconsciously begins to criticize what she once could not afford, either because of life circumstances or because of her own uncertainty. Hope? Ehtina, a practical psychologist and a gestalt therapist, illustrates by example how this projection works: »Imagine that you are a mother of 2 or 3 adult children who at one time did not allow herself to live a full-fledged social life and, of course, felt this discomfort . And when you see what you would like when you want, then you have two ways to react: you will resign yourself to the fact that this can not be returned, or become angry with your mother, who publicly feeds: throw a condemning glance in her direction, even worse, Some »instructive frazochku» », - says Ms.? Ehtina and adds that aggression towards someone is more often than not a way to escape from one's own experiences.

Faced with an open or concealed condemnation herethese moralists, a young mother, especially one that is in a state of postpartum depression, or simply one that is more vulnerable psyche may even lose the milk, which is the key to the future health of the baby.

Anne Hoskins, Deputy Director,Family, Children and the Department of Health in England, said in a comment on The Guardian, that the tendency to criticize breastfeeding in public can lead to a very sad consequences. »Breastfeeding - the best» start in life », which you can give your baby. We must not allow the newly minted mother began to refuse to breastfeed due to the fact that someone does not like it. Our task - to help them feel comfortable in as they feed, anytime, anywhere. »

Alternative feeding?

Many of the children in breast feeding opponentspublic places sends alleged that milk can not simply decant the bottle? Why use a breast, it's intimate body? But these people do not understand, or simply refuse to understand the obvious things: firstly, the expressed milk loses nutrients, and secondly, perishable, and thirdly, heard from friends moms that this procedure is nothing to do with pleasant sensations there . In addition, it is worth noting another important argument when the kid is naughty - it does not always mean that it is hungry. »Mother's chest - it's not just food, but also a way to calm the child and meet its other needs, so adapt and feed your baby need a place and in any situation», - shares his thoughts with us Anastasiya Fedorchuk, a consultant on breastfeeding. In addition, she believes that feeding the baby in public places today - this is not a problem: »Fortunately, slings, clothes for feeding, capes. Do mothers have the opportunity to feed the children of the »requirement» is not exposed, and without confusing others, »- says Anastasia.

Escape from reality

I know that the phrase »let them do the house thatwant, but I do not want to see »is some kind of obsessive-typical of our mentality. But I always have one question for these people: all that is unpleasant for your contemplation, should be hidden? And it's not just mothers. Here we are talking about other minorities in society, for example on the disabled, the elderly, people homosexual. Let them in cafes, for example, will also be something to put on the head, so they do not spoil the appetite of other visitors?

Today, breastfeeding in public places -this is more than just a natural need. This manifesto mothers against her »disability» in the post-natal period. This is direct evidence that the child can harmoniously complement of life, not »steal» it, forcing a woman to give up everything for the sake of motherhood. And I think that to criticize or look for »porn Contexts» here are only those people who are stuck in a patriarchal world where a woman is the only »keeper of the hearth.» It is a pity that they did not notice how everything has started to use electricity.

Olga Freimuth presenter of the program »Freimuth Inspector», mother of two children: Zlata (10 years) and Valerie (3 months).

You fed their babies? How long?
Yes, but it so happened that long. That's my anatomy.

It was necessary to feed in public places, when the child would have a »here and now»? As a way out of this situation?
With a little son, I'm out »into the light». And with Zlata we first weeks socialized perhaps contributed to the atmosphere of London. In the cafe there is some soft chairs for mothers who feed. They are usually in the corner, but not because it somehow condemned, but the noise did not distract the baby places. I had a favorite Sturbucks on Old Street. I took the book, read, drink coffee, while the daughter was sleeping. With friends met. Women who have just given birth to most want to communicate. After a long pregnancy, so it is important to touch a full life, to put on new shoes on his heels and catch your subtle, without abdomen, reflected in shop windows. I never stuck out neckline, feeding on humans. But I never sat a prisoner in the house.

Or encountered negative reactions of others during breastfeeding?
Never. But I admit, when moved to Kiev with his daughter, feeding in public places was not solved. With Valery's different: often take him on a business trip. Recently, in Lviv, on the terrace of the hotel »Leopolis» breast feeding her son, just turned her back to the street.

In your opinion, should abandon the mother breast-feeding (express milk in advance) through the public opinion?
My mother - the child's lawyer. And people do not consider is, random counter more worried than they are today supper than your bare beautiful breasts.

Olga Freimuth and her son