I can not imagine a conversation about sexeasy, but at the same time it should not be so difficult and problematic, some imagined it to many adolescents. In fact, some parents are pretty good way to spend an important conversation with their children, while somehow helping them to avoid embarrassment and giving them a lot of useful tips. Here are some of them that help in dealing with adolescents.
В разговоре с ребенком на такую неловкую тему, как секс, мелкие вещи могут стать причиной крупных проблем. Многие ребята говорили мне, что, начиная разговор в нужное время и в нужном месте, можно сгладить возникающее при этом неудобство и повысить эффективность беседы. Разные дети предпочитают для разговора разное время и разные места, поэтому вам необходимо выяснить, что именно подходит для вашего ребенка. И чтобы уменьшить поле поисков, некоторые подростки сообщают вам, что им подходит, а что нет.
I like when my mother talking to me aboutsex in the car on the way to a rehearsal of the orchestra, in which I play. I do not need to look into her eyes, because she is driving, and I know that the conversation will not last, so how do we go about 10 minutes.
Keyali, 14 years old, Boonton, NJ
The understanding that we have limited time,It helps us unconsciously do not feel trapped in a conversation. But the use of the machine for conversations has a downside. For many parents due to work schedule the machine becomes the only place where they can talk to the child. But good does not happen much. Firstly, there is a formality conversation. This is something that you definitely try to avoid. If every time, driving up the daughter, will you talk about sex, she will feel that she has assigned to you a terrible meeting. (And of course, we do not want you to be slid into the ditch, when we ask, do you think that oral sex is real.) Awkward conversation, like talking about sex, are better when they are not planned and unexpected. The more casual and natural, they seem to you, the more natural and casual and they seem to us.
There are other ways, not only in the car tohold a conversation for a limited time. According to the guys, useful conversations started at bedtime or before the arrival of the school bus, or in front of your favorite TV shows. When we feel trapped in a trap, like any other people, we all think about how to get out of it. When we see an end to talk about sex in the beginning, there is a greater chance that we will pay attention to your words, and we will not look for a way out of this situation.
A lot of guys have told me where theyWe feel comfortable while talking with you. Again, this is a matter to be decided individually for your teenager - there are differences of opinion, where it should take place. Almost every teenager has their own preferences.
Многие дети хотят, чтобы с ними разговаривали в их комнате, т. е. на их территории. Они не хотят быть оторванными от привычного окружения во время разговора о сексе. Ребята рассказывали, что родители любят позвать их в определенное место в доме для «важных бесед», включая беседу о сексе. Когда вы приводите нас на «обозначенную территорию», мы чувствуем ваше давление на нас, потому что это ваша земля. Я знаю, когда мама зовет меня в гостиную, что-то не так. Я сразу чувствую себя неловко. И поэтому, если она пригласила меня сюда для разговора о сексе… об этом разговоре можно сразу забыть, он вызовет только боль. С другой стороны, иногда подростки считают приход в свою комнату вторжением в частную собственность.
Many teens say that it is best to talktested on common areas such as the kitchen. Here they feel on an equal footing with their parents and talk to them seemed relaxed and natural. And has a positive impact both.
When my father talking to me about sex, and weare just in the kitchen, I have nothing against. I do not feel pushed into a corner and all that. But I hate it when it comes to this in my room. I have a feeling that I was in trouble.
Mark, 13 years, Chattanooga, Tennessee
