Oh, those complexes!
»! If I was as skinny as she asks!», »If I had a different shaped nose,» »I'm no one's calling - I do not need anyone!» - Familiar thoughts? And all this is called one word - complexes.

If I was ...
The desire to have a thin waist, big breastssize, different appearance - every day, clinging to such an idea, we begin to bring the matter to the point of absurdity. We think that if it would be different - and fans would be more, and happiness! Somewhere in the subconscious can and fumbling truth »not born beautiful, and born happy», but we stubbornly do not notice it. While in front of our eyes, there are many examples plump girlfriends who did not stop to find the fullness of the remarkable life of the satellite. Forget about long noses and other »vicissitudes» looks familiar, that successfully make a career, happy family and do not want to change anything in my life (and even more so, to go under the surgeon's knife). »I have two children - there is no point in trying to arrange a personal life. Who do I need ?! »How to stop the destructive thoughts that do not give to live in peace?

Such as there is
First you need to stay at home - youas she is. Besides the fact that you are born with a certain character, to shape it in the future to help parents, grandparents, friends, classmates. As for the exterior, it is also an essential fact. So, what we have, we have. Now try to articulate their desire - what you want from yourself? Only it should not be momentary desire, and the problem of a few years. What is it?

Mirror - my enemy?

It is said that even the flowers wither without love. And what can we say about a person? Imagine how every day you torture yourself discontent - you do not want to look in the mirror, the claims for claims sypyatsya the one and only. And no matter what is your personal opinion or someone else when something unfortunate »walked» on your appearance. There was a man with that opinion, and now you are surrounded by other people. And believe me, they can not even guess about your anguish, because you see a very different - without all these problems. Surely each of you faced with the phenomenon: for the first time met the man and was struck by some details of appearance. But if you have to constantly communicate with that person, then eventually you will stop paying attention to it. And so people arranged everything! After all, in the world there are others who were born with birth defects, health problems, growth, weight, etc. However, these people know how to love yourself. What can we say about us - maybe not with small neat nose, but what a blessing that he did there!

And I want to laugh, and to punish
Dissatisfaction with his character and behavior, toofar from taking root in childhood. You want to be more strict, or vice versa, do not be afraid to talk? And it is fixable! There are a lot of psychological training - another thing that these need to be addressed.

A »iskhlestat» accusations »Well, againnurse let down »or» blushing and mumbling again, instead of a good joke »- is simple enough. And once again it blossomed riotous color dislike for themselves, which will not make you happier than these quibbles and self-torture. Only once will cause fear and panic when it will be necessary to make responsible decisions, or have fun in the company. But before you start »remake» of his character, think: maybe the strictness you not to face and love you for your kindness and compassion? And shyness is to your opponent feeling of tenderness? Everyone dreams of a different - choose any particular pattern can not be, and should remember that wearing a mask, you cease to be themselves. So is there any sense in all these transformations, if everything will never be able to please?

Happiness I can not see

Many women after divorce mentally putcross on his personal life. And some children are often called unpleasant word »appendage.» I have a friend who met his soul mate, already having five »add-ons». So they with her second husband gave birth to three more, and live happily ever after. It is worth to point out that this woman never claimed the title of »Miss World» - has the usual appearance and extra 20 kilograms. What are we then talking about? Good mood, an extra smile and kindness work wonders! Children - is our wealth, not the appendage. Presents himself not with the thought, »If he does not, then no one else,» and thinking that your man will love not only you but also your children. And because gold is a man, because it is not always willing to relatives of his love, to say nothing of the others. Look around: the sun is shining, everyone is healthy, kids, clever (just right!). And a happy woman pulled halves - only manage to »collect». And who does not last - because it is, hence, do not need you at all!

I at one
Получается, что чем больше вы себя накручиваете, зацикливаясь на проблемах, вами же и придуманных, тем меньше любви получаете. А чем меньше любви, тем больше недовольства. И это замкнутый круг. Разве можно так к себе относиться? Пожалейте себя, пожалуйста, ведь вы у себя.. одна и больше такой нет! И не будет.