Every day there are excavations in search of keys, mobile and net skirt? It's time to dismantle the rubble - and in the apartment, and in life.
»We fill the house with garbage, similar to the one thatWe copy inside: things that, as we convince ourselves, will be useful in the future, but they ultimately completely deprive us of joy. Often we bring useless things into the house to calm down our absorbing emotions, »explain Lauren? Ozenfild and psychotherapist Melva Green in his book »Breathe freely».
The authors believe that the mess in the house cantell you something about the identity of the mistress - and it's not about how often she washes the floors, washes curtains. It turns out, Footprint dishes in the sink and improvised dump-hanger on the chair may well tell us about life in general.
Yes, imagine the mess - it is not onlydirty dishes, but also tons of »very correct 'cosmetics, scored the eyeballs forgotten dresses wardrobe, dozens of gathering dust on the shelves of souvenirs and unsorted box with all sorts of little things, which you have long do not look - except that throws something new to the total weight of unidentified pieces.
»Our culture does not tolerate emptiness - it isfear and anxiety. Emptiness is associated with loneliness, boredom, depression, financial failure. » Maybe that's why you slaughter each centimeter less floor space, and your supposedly thrift attracts more trash? I do not make up your mind to throw out the old jeans, although they lie just a year somewhere in store (even suddenly come in handy?) - Most likely, and with long izzhivshimi themselves relationships you the same way. Do not know how to give up the unexpected (and not very relevant) gifts from a good neighbor or caring friend - and almost certainly do not know how to communicate in time to mark the borders and unnecessary burden themselves with bonds. It's better than inadvertently offend people and stay all by yourself? But you have a right to their own opinion and, and inventory space. So why clutter your life so many unnecessary things?
Step One: STOP AND P? HISTORY
»No one can be against the will to do better. Rather, coercion hinders our potential unfold. We need to recognize their negative emotions to be able to convert them. »
The authors are advised to: listen to your confusion. Meet him face to face is to recognize the unpleasant traits of character and all the things that you are in every way a hiding, fear and anxiety, missed opportunities, frustration in life ... Do not criticize yourself for every weakness, or complain about the circumstances. Try to just accept reality. Which, by the way, does not mean »immediately relax and lowly» - on the contrary, it is only a start.
Step two: SFO? MULEY? YOUR OBJECTIVES
»Chaos is able to prevail by itself, but harmony is created deliberately.»
So - we need a plan. ? Look carefully at each room and determine what kind of atmosphere should be in the hallway, bedroom, bathroom, kitchen? What will people feel when they are in them?
Hint: come up with three key words for each room - you can even hang on the door sign »This room is designed for ...» to adhere to the goals not only in the large harvest, but also after.
What does not fit into the concept? All too much away take away - some things may move out of the bedroom into the living room, or vice versa, but something will have to be discarded. Nobody, of course, does not call again to shovel all their belongings in a bag and pull in the garbage disposal. But be honest with yourself: that out of all this abundance you really need and it is important, and that just takes up space, because it is a pity?
Step Three: EXCEPT ARE? GYI
Do not immediately jump on your mess with the battle,hoping to kill him at once. It's a long process, and it does not resemble a fight with the enemy. Remember that under stress the body produces adrenaline. It is, of course, causes a surge of energy that can be very productive - until it is. But it is exhausted very quickly, and you feel exhausted and you think about what has done the hard work and time to so few. Put yourself reasonable goals, such as: »Today, I make out a drawer» or »Over the weekend I will cleanse closet of unnecessary clothes.»
»Particular sympathy is required to prove to the thingsserved its not suitable for you and not Godea for the transfer to charity. They have just thrown away. And it can be the most difficult. Throwing things, we feel wasteful and ungrateful. »
But they are of value only ifbring happiness, a sense of freedom and lightness. Even if something is worth a lot of money, but do not cause anything but unfortunate - this item is not significant, and it need not be protected.
How to conduct an audit?
? DRINK, WHAT DOES TO LEAVE IN THE HOUSE, WILL YOU HELP? ASCHNENIE FROM THE BOOK »BREATH FREE» IN KOTO? OM EVERY P? EDMET NEEDS P? SHOP EVERYTHING? EZ T? EJECT B? AT1. Is this thing is my purpose?
You have to choose which you want to maintain the atmosphere in a particular room - stick to the plan. Anything that does not fit, does not pass through the first gate.2. I take this thing?
Do not forget that at the same time trying tofree not only from the physical but also the emotional stuff. Question: »Do I have to use this thing» - means regret about the past. »Should I use it?» - Speaks of guilt because of the vain purchases. »Will I use?» - A sign of anxiety about the future. The second gate is determined in favor of this, so if a year thing you never come in handy, it does not pass through them.3. Is this a good thing my soul?
If there are items in the house, causing a feeling ofguilt, bitterness, regret. resentment, jealousy, anger, despair, self-pity, anxiety or recall some unpleasant event, they should not pass through any gate.
