After reading this book, you will learn the principles of child-rearing, for the implementation of which requires serious self-discipline. AT After all the efforts will bear fruit, yetHowever, to be a good parent, you have to work on yourself. However, parental education is not only because of the efforts of self-discipline and hard work. An additional advantage is the ability to have fun together and enjoy what you are - a part of a happy family.
Unhealthy unity in the family reallyIt prevents each member individually to grow and develop, but the lack of unity makes the family discord. Trouble modern families is inflated commitments that people take - not to the family, and at work, at church, at school, in clubs and social organizations. We move through life too fast! But when all the race through life with such breakneck speed, no one will be able to enjoy the unity of family members.
Many parents say that eventuallyit is important not the quantity but the quality of time spent together. In this statement there is a grain of truth. However, any family that wants to close ranks, should, first, have the time and, secondly, use it sensibly.
How to achieve this? Adult children often recalls with a warm feeling is not the birthday party, when you gave him an expensive bike with a ten-speed, and the time you spent with them. AT our family we strengthen unity and adhering towell-established traditions. One of them we keep for many years - every Friday evening we ate Mexican Tostado candlelight. At the present time our children live separately, but visiting us during the holidays, they are looking forward to Friday, when we arrange for them Tostado with candles. It is our family tradition.
Мы также сделали вечер пятницы семейным вечером. Съев тостады, мы садились у потрескивающего огня (в зимнее время) и читали вслух. Иногда мы читали вслух по очереди и таким способом прочли вместе много книг, преподавших нам много ценных уроков и давших направление в жизни. Регулярно повторяя эту процедуру, мы превратили ее в устойчивую семейную традицию.
Another is our tradition was: We always sat next to the church. We did not try to make it an indisputable law, but rarely made an exception to the rule. When the children's classes have completed the analysis of the lesson, and began the service, we did not have to run around the church and look for their children. Each week, we sat on the same bench in the third row. This gave us the opportunity to see well all the participants of the service from close range. If there is a time during the week, when the whole family to be together, it comes time during the service. This tradition must be installed as soon as possible, and then maintain it. When our children will create their own family, I really hope to see during the service every family in the third row of our church! It has become a tradition.
Celebrate birthdays, hold hands inthe prayer before the meal, hold regular family worship - all included in our tradition through regular repetition. These traditions create a sense of intimacy and belonging. The pious family does not consist of single people living under one roof. This group of people closely associated with each other and have common traditions, which are an expensive asset and heritage. Every family should have its own unique characteristics, values and activities that distinguish it from other families.
Harry and I do not claim absolute knowledgepart of parenting. But we have learned from many years of experience with other families that members of a happy family get the pleasure of communicating with each other. Often, we were far from the ideals that are now, in retrospect, so clearly and distinctly understand, but thank God for an enjoyable time spent with our kids.
It must have been the spirit of creativity and funWe inherited and our children, because they surprised us with undeclared party organized in honor of the seventeen-year anniversary of our wedding. When Harry and on Sunday evening arrived home, our house was full of guests, which our children have chosen and invited. They gave me not how many minutes, so I brought myself up, and then escorted us to a place of honor. Carlin, the organizer and inspirer of this public event, began to read:
Седьмого января, в восемь часов вечера, всего 17 коротких и наполненных событиями счастливых лет тому назад, в доме г-на и г-жи Карл Уильям Рил состоялась свадебное торжество. Их дочь Нэнси Лью вышла замуж за г-на Гарри Артура Ван Пелта. Сегодня вечером нам хотелось бы воссоздать лишь небольшую часть того чудесного, чудесного вечера.
Yes, long live performance! We all had a wonderful evening filled with games, food and music. Guests even listened to tape recordings made at our wedding. The culmination of the evening came when our three teenage handed us an envelope. We would have opened it.
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Harry A. Van Pelt!
You have just received a gift of a trip for two. You will be able to spend three days and two nights in a beautiful log home in the town of Canmore, Alberta, Canada.
We hope that you will spend a greatsecond honeymoon and have more fun while relaxing on duty, children and routine. You are well aware of these places, so that the rest in the full confidence that you will be all right and that you expect only a pleasant and fun time.
Письмо заканчивалось подписями трех детей-чемпионов: Карлин, Родни и Марка. Они также вложили в конверт 15 долларов, которые сумели собрать для нас. Не знаю, какое впечатление это произвело на вас, но на мои глаза навертываются слезы. Какие дорогие воспоминания остались у нас about that glorious time when we were all together happy family!
Родителям пора пересмотреть свои ценности, пора замедлить бег по жизни. Забудьте про новую машину, ковровую дорожку или мебель, которую вы хотите поставить после ремонта. Отодвиньте на второе или третье место all tangible benefits that you want to provide for your child. Your child need not so much a thing as you themselves. He needs to personally you and no one else put him precious time.
Walk from them in the lap of nature, holding his hand and answering him questions about God's creation. make together from These kites and enjoy his enthusiastic gaze, when he will be watching how this serpent writhing and dancing in the wind. Arrange cheerful, noisy fuss and fight on the floor in the living room, let all take part in it. Listen to your child now because what tomorrow he might not want from talk to you. Pay time for all these activities now. Tomorrow you will not have any guarantees.
To be a happy parent, you need to be given to children time, but I I do not want to say that you should invest inbaby all the forces. You should review their priorities and understand the difference between urgent and important matters. We tend to give priority to urgent cases and the neglectcauseway really important. For example, a phone call can interrupt you when you read the Bible lesson his to kid. You can waste time chattering on the phone for half an hour, and in the meantime the child will go to bed alone. Urgent business has taken the upper hand again.
ОТЦЫ, И МАТЕРИ ХРИСТИАНЕ, ВАМ НУЖНО СНИЗИТЬ ТЕМП ЖИЗНИ. Уделяйте время важным делам сейчас. Пересмотрите свои приоритеты. Бог благословит и почтит ваши усилия.
Raising a child can sometimes cause youheadache and bring you to a nervous exhaustion. It happens the days in which you really want to sell her son at the flea market! Sometimes you will feel that you have suffered a complete fiasco and did everything wrong. Despair is rolled on you like a strong flood.
Am I a supporter of childless families,taking into account all the difficulties and stress, which are associated with parenting? The Lord rebuke! A couple wishing to have children (and not just expect that she will have children, as in all) and with God to participate in a thrilling miracle of reproducing life, it must be carefully and satisfy his desire to assume parental responsibilities. One of the main pleasures in life - to see how your child grows and begins to justify the forces and means that you have invested in it. And one day you will make for yourself an unexpected discovery that should be allowed are not many misses, you thought, because in front of you will be a wonderful person, is found in his character those features on the development that you worked so hard .
The whole world probably never fully appreciateefforts invested conscientious parents in child rearing process. But in the final judgment all appear exactly in the light, as God knows, and He clearly reward parents, prepare your children for His Kingdom. Perhaps the upbringing and development of the child as soon as they tears, turmoil and sleepless nights, but every parent who labored wisely in the name of saving souls, hear the word of God from the welcome: »Well done, good and faithful servant.»
