The task of parents is to reconcile mercy and truth. From the first days of a child's life, parents should not only love him but to set some boundaries, structure. The child needs their love, and their severity. For all its leniency, parents have an obligation to insist that the child fulfill their duties. Let parents show compassion and willingness to forgive, but also the child have the responsibility and desire to improve. In relation to the person needs to be soft, in relation to his problems severe.
How it looks in practice? This is the main formula.
Grace builds and maintains relationships; the truth sets the direction of development and structures the child's behavior. Mercy reminds the child that he is loved, the truth tells him what to do and how it should be.
Parents, combining grace and truth, in every observation of the child trying to show both;
"I know that you want to play right now. Hard to all, but I want you to first finish your homework. Then play".
"I forgive you for what you've done, but if it happens again, you will spend the day under house arrest".
"I'm on your side, even if you don't understand this, but rules must be respected".
Dan and Karen talked to a friend that helped them to overcome the extreme. Dan tried to combine his inherent love of truth with grace, he began to show more love, raising Jason, learned to sympathize with his fear of the possible failure, you understand how difficult it is for boy to diligently perform the same task, how lost he feels among the other children. Now he really was raised by Jason, telling him when the guy would not obey: "of Course, it's not easy. I also sometimes don't want to do their job. Noah want to do what's best for you. Clean your room and we can play". It worked much better than the previous one, "Jason! Come here immediately! Get to it! How long can you hang around! I have no energy to look at you, lazy bones!"
Karen also began to add to the grace of the truth. It was a clear day schedule for Jason and did not allow him to do what he wanted, until he finishes the obligatory things. Karen even learned how to punish!
