Sometimes not so easy to understand the nature of the problem or in temperament, because the symptoms are the same. For example, the child shouldn't interfere in their business, interrupting, in General, tries all possible means to impose yourself to others. Perhaps the reason that too energetic temperament, and maybe the lack of incorporated structures and penalties or even a disorder caused by lack of attention. As parents to understand this?

Most likely, You could help expert advice: the teacher, the psychologist, the pediatrician, especially if you suspect some kind of physiological or psychological deviation. However, between the problems of nature and problems of conduct, rooted in temperament, there is a significant difference: if you manage to solve the problems of character, the problems of temperament are not so great. A wide range of different temperaments fit within the psychological norm, but the deviation of character causing impairment of functioning and serious life problems.

So, when you encounter any problem, it is desirable first to consider it from the point of view character. For example, if your child is behaving compulsively, ask yourself the following questions:

• If he is not trying to establish a relationship the only way?

• Does he understand that his behavior hurts others?

• Not whether it is the patience of others?

• Will it be followed by punishment behavior?

• If he does not provoke others to force them to set boundaries?

• If he wasn't afraid to find his vulnerability and not trying thus to hide?

Most often it is in the nature of a child you will find the cause of the problem, especially when it comes to destructive behavior. Differences in temperament do not lead to such extremes.

What is the conclusion?

Let's say your child one hundred percent stem from his temperament and not of character.

For example, the case of a congenital inclinations, what God willed, or at least that He allows. For example, your daughter is by nature inclined to withdraw into themselves, leaving the relations, it is very difficult to get close to people. Not your fault and not the fault of your baby that he has such a trait.

What can you do? The bad news is that, although a person is not guilty in his temperament, the older he gets, the more he is obliged to cope with their inclinations. One girl will have to deal with his tendency to withdraw to himself, be isolated from people, other — to overcome your habit to please everyone and let people sit on his head, the third that is self-absorbed and oblivious to others, too, will need to change. Should adjust your temperament to reality and not to wait until the reality got used to it. No in any case, one cannot expect others to adapt their lives in favor of your "style", especially in the area of interpersonal relationships and responsibility. Temperament will be a problem in character development. Such is the burden of the maturing person.

The same message we find in the Bible. In life we have to deal not only with problems in which we are guilty, but also with the challenges brought on other grounds. Our job is to solve these problems, not blame. Immature person cries for justice and demands compensation, a Mature man tries to heal the wound. Paul was given "a thorn in the flesh" that has become stronger and more Mature love for God (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10). And your child will adapt to life in a fallen world.

When the temperament becomes a problem, not just "personal characteristics"? Apply the following right-on: if the temperament prevents the growth of affection, independence, sense of reality and any other aspects of character education, it becomes a problem. It is impossible to meet the dreamer who refuse to leave their fantasy world and play with other children. Don't need to encourage his tendency to self-isolation, saying: "the Child needs to be alone, it stimulates the creative process." Relations with other people does not hinder the creative process.

Experiences may gradually change congenital temperament. Studies have shown that the environment exerts a powerful influence even on the property given to man by nature. This is the redemptive work of the Lord: innate qualities do not become fatal.