Clear rules ease the daily life. They give parents guidelines for consistent training of the child. Through obedience to reasonable rules, the child learns to trust parents. Rules also help the child remember what is expected of them.

Our rules should be short, easy to remember and stated in a positive manner, which is especially Valena. Children too often hear: "don't do that", "don't go there". Try also to correct the child in a positive spirit. "You can turn on the TV after performing household chores". But do not phrase this requirement as follows: "If you don't do your homework, don't watch TV". All your requests we can Express in a positive way. In addition, the rules need to stipulate exactly what you want from the child, as well as the consequences of disobedience. "Make your bed before you sit down to Breakfast." And rules should be formulated in a way that is easy to do. In other words, state your requirements specifically. "You have to clean my room, and then go play. In your room must be clean. This means that you have to collect all the toys, clean clothes, vacuum the floor and wipe the dust off the furniture." When the rules specifies in detail all that needs to be done, the child has no excuses if he does only half the work. Adapt your rules to the age, ability and living conditions of the child — it is unlikely that you will be teaching a two-year old toddler can make a bed or wash the dishes. Finally, keep the number of rules to a minimum. The best discipline prevails in that house, whose inhabitants follow a few simple rules. That is where there is the least disciplinary problems. Let your child get used to living by rules. Let him alone to solve many problems, but require strict compliance with the few rules that you set in your house.

4. Speak once, then act. A mother brings her ten-month baby in the sandbox to keep him outdoors and in the sun. The kid gathers a handful of sand and tosses in his mouth. Mother stops him, removes the sand from his mouth and goes back to reading his book. Again the boy does the same thing. This time mom scolds son and again lands him in the sandbox. The same scene is repeated many times within a half hour. As a result my mother almost unable to read, and little attracts her attention, because he opened a delightful way to force mom to do them. Not scolding, but a specific action could teach the kid not to pull in your mouth all in a row.

Another mother otherwise solves the same problem. When her kid throws sand in my mouth, she immediately takes it out of the sandbox and put in a stroller. She pays no attention to his cries and protests and continues to read. When the child calms down, but not before that, Mama puts it back in the sandbox. As soon as child again to fill his mouth with sand, as he is again in the stroller. Shortly before it reaches, if he takes the sand in his mouth, he would have to sit in the stroller. He doesn't understand mother's words but understands her actions.

Julia threw her tricycle on the road, ignoring my mother's requests to remove it before the arrival of the Pope. Finally, the mother brought the girl to the bike. Grasping with one hand the bike with the other hand she began to play with Julie and angrily say to her, "I told you to clean up the bike, and you should do it immediately!"

In this situation the mother would be better to hide the bike and hide it from Julia away so she was unable to find it. When Julia will ask Mama, where's her bike, the mother can respond to her: "I'm Sorry, Julia, but today you're not going to ride a bike. You didn't want to put him in his place, so I won't give it to you, but tomorrow you can ask permission to ride". The last phrase leaves Julia hope someday to get my bike back.

Another method of education is the care of the child when it creates a mess. This technique is especially useful when the conflicts caused by the rivalry between brothers and sisters, in the case of whims and whining, or the child can sometimes be the heebie jeebies. If there is disagreement between the child and the parent can ignite emotions. If a parent leaves a child, the latter will not act up, in any case, it is not long enough! It is best to retire to the bathroom, because she is the personification of solitude. Prepare in advance a sufficient number of journals and books for such cases, and, may be, and the radio to turn it louder and not hear the protests of the child. When Wendy's going to happen next tantrum, mom would lock myself in the bathroom. No need to say a word. Giving Wendy the opportunity to rage in solitude, the mother will show that Wendy's respects the right to freedom of expression. But, stepping down from her indignant cries, it will also demonstrate that it is not going to listen to them. Left alone, the child immediately calms down, and soon it comes the main thing: if it goes beyond what is permitted, the parent goes away. In this case, the child often corrects their behavior and lets you know that he is ready to work again with parents.

At first glance it may seem that with your knowledge the child was away with his outrageous behavior. But if better understand this situation, it becomes clear that the child wants to get your attention. If you let to involve themselves in this performance, fix the baby a desire to behave in a similar way. In the process of education we need to nip in the Bud unacceptable behavior and not be satisfied with any temporary surface measures. Few parents understand what really lies behind bad behavior. Once they realize their mistake and the true meaning of the child's behavior, they will be able to correct his behavior. If a kid finds that his conduct does not attract the attention of adults, he will look for other methods to attract the desired attention.

Often to prevent bad behavior of the child parents only need to keep my mouth shut, even if they want to say something and rectify the situation with words. But the child behaves one way or another for a specific purpose, and often, it no desire to change. He believes any talk boring, he develops "deafness" to mother's words. Parents of such children often sigh: "He doesn't listen to a word I've said!" But despite this, they redoubled continue to send the child one warning after another.

For parents who find themselves in this situation, a good slogan could be: "During the conflict, keep your mouth shut and act". Keep calm and quietly insist on its right to claim obedience. Be strong and in the end his decisive action you will win the respect, and will achieve this faster than words.

5. Find the middle ground between the manifestation of tenderness and discipline. Extremes seldom benefit, and this, of course, refers to the education of children. Avoid the extremes: