Concerned mother recently asked my family doctor "You don't know where you can find good books about sex for my son? The boy will soon be thirteen years old, and I think he should know the truth of life." Sadly, what is actually this the mother turned a blind eye to the truth of life. Sex education of the child begins from the day of his birth. When the mother expresses her love for him, cares about him and plays with him, she indirectly involved in sex education.
Interest in your body awakens in the child a lot sooner than we can imagine. Suppose that 14-month-old Joni bathe in the tub. He sits in warm water and enthusiastically explores my body. He's touching the toes, and the mother exclaims, "It's my baby's fingers". Continuing to play, he feels the navel. Perhaps mother will tell him. "It's the button on johnny's tummy." Then he suddenly discovers penis and starts playing with it. Few mothers would dare to say: "This is Joni's penis". Instead, most of them will try to distract the kid or somehow let him know that he does bad things. Someone can then plunk it on the handle and warn: "don't do that!".
When the mother thus refers to such a situation, it teaches the child that his fingers are very cute, perfect belly button he has, he can play, but that's between the legs he's got something bad and the ugly. For johnny his genitals — just as interesting a body part, like toes, but the mother awakens in him an unhealthy interest in the sexual organs, suggesting to him that this is a forbidden part of the body.
What should parents do when their child discovers the genitals? It is necessary to explain the precise name and explain what those bodies are, just as they are taught to remember the names of other body parts. Perhaps the parents hard to pronounce some names, but the child easily remembers the words: penis, testicles, buttocks, anus, vagina, vulva, as harmless from the point of view of the parents, the elbow, the nose, the ear and the eye. These words are easy to pronounce, and should definitely be consumed in a conversation with your child about his body. It would be good to explain to the child the meaning of such words as urination and menstruation.
One warning: with the exception of those cases where the child needs to use the bathroom, words related to personal hygiene and dressing procedures, it should be recited only at home or in the presence of parents alone. In the process of development the child needs also to learn which words are acceptable and appropriate in public places, and which are not.