Billy Graham told the girl, studentCollege who was seriously injured in a car accident. Dying in a hospital room, she told her mother: »Mom, you taught me everything I need to live: how to light a cigarette, how to hold a glass with a cocktail, as the sexual activity, avoiding pregnancy, but you taught me not to die. Rather, teach me, my mother, because I'm dying. »
Police arrested 17-year-old boy and sent him at pre-trial detention cell where he expectedcourt. There's a guy suddenly fell into a trance. He broke the heating pipe, smashed all the windows, to which he could reach, and then four o'clock banged on the pipes until it was suppressed with tear gas. Subsequently, when the guy asked about the reasons for such »pranks», he said: »I had nothing to lose, I've lost the only thing that could keep me: my parents.»
Another man wrote: »I'll tell you why we are teenagers, drink and plants casual sex. You, the parents, and the start of the war gave us a terrible example, with regard to morality and integrity, and then want us to be angels. We are just imitating you. Why do not you put into practice what preach? »
She sadly admitted in the officeConsultant: »I am the most miserable in the world. In the morning I go to work, then come home, and I have no purpose in life. To me? constantly have to keep their parents that they are not in a fight killed each other, and to stop the little brother, when he begins to beat his little sister. » She said with tears: »Once we had a happy family. Father went to church with us, and all we have evolved perfectly. But then something happened to him. He was fed up, including my mother, so they began to quarrel. He took to drinking, and she began to walk with the other men. Now stay at home is unbearable, but I feel that I have to stay there, so they do not kill each other. »
Do the family is not threatened before this terriblehazard. Half of the marriages in North America end in divorce. The same thing is happening in other countries. Some researchers predict that in a few years the family in the form in which it is known today, goes into oblivion, and that in the future will become popular group marriages, and community life. But how do these changes affect children? Few dare even to speculate on this topic.
Yes, times have changed, but do not change humanrelations, which are a prerequisite for the development of the character of children still need parents, because these close ties at the dawn of their lives develop their humanity. Teens still need guidance and some limitations, along with the support and encouragement as they grow up, preparing to leave home and to create a family.
Но природа несколько беспечно относится к тем, кому она позволяет становиться мамами и папами. Чтобы произвести на свет ребенка в браке или вне брака, не требуется приобретать лицензию или сдавать экзамены. Молодые пары зачастую оказываются обремененными детьми, не зная принципов родительского воспитания, наказания, формирования характера, общения. Такие родители не совершают умышленных ошибок, но их детям от этого не легче. Каждый год миллионы людей становятся родителями. Однако одна из самых трудных задач в нашей жизни — взять на себя всю полноту ответственности за воспитание совершенно беспомощного маленького человечка, чтобы в конечном итоге он стал организованным и полезным членом общества. Большинство родителей, предоставленных чаще всего самим себе, спотыкаются на этом пути и лишь изредка получают советы таких психологов, как д-р Джеймс Добсон, автор бестселлера «Решиться наказывать». Большинство родителей храбро сражаются с разбросанными по комнате игрушками и гневными криками «нет, нет!», а на следующий день разбираются с драчунами и ябедами и решают, кому принадлежит игрушечная машина. Хотя проблемы меняются, они никогда не иссякают, и родители стремятся обязательно разрешить их. Они вкладывают в детей время, силы и средства. Им ничего не жалко для своих детей: хорошей еды и одежды, дорогих игрушек. Но, несмотря на все благие намерения, многие родители бывают разочарованы поведением своих детей. Дети получают twos in schools, snarls, and do not listen, argue,act up, get angry, do wet diapers. They are lazy, do not want to work at home, senior rude. They need attention, they fight with each other, experiencing adult patient. For many parents this is familiar,
Родители, имеющие самые добрые намерения, вправе спросить: «Почему наши дети столь непослушны, если мы изо всех сил старались их воспитать?»
Adult worried about growingjuvenile delinquency, an increasing number of young drug addicts, the growth of diseases, sexually transmitted diseases, and in cases of care of children at home and school. Gloomy thoughts do not give them rest, »All I'm doing so well, I think? I do have your child the help he needs, moving in the maze of life? »
Today's parents just need tochange, but most of them rely on the same methods of education of children and ways of solving problems, which were used by their parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and so on. d. However, behavioral scientists who study human behavior, collected extensive materials concerning the relationship between people, motivation and communication. But parents need not only to have more information and to know the principles; they also need help in mastering the techniques that will be effective in their family life and upbringing of their children.
В этой книге преподаются легкие для усвоения и применения методы успешного воспитания, подчеркивается важность обучения ребенка в первые пять лет жизни. Автор настаивает на том, что самоуважение является решающим фактором, от которого зависят успехи или неудачи в жизни. Книга учит не только основам формирования характера, но и качественному общению с детьми всех возрастов и правильным методам наказания. Родители, у которых найдется время познакомиться с методами и принципами, предлагаемыми в данной книге, понять их и применять на деле, будут обильно вознаграждены, с гордостью глядя на своих взрослеющих детей.
Although I have no ready-made answers for eachparent, I offer proven installation and principles with which you will meet in the pages of this book. If you take these principles on arms and let them determine your style of behavior, then eventually assimilated information will be valuable for you, as long as you absorb it and will use in their lives,
Of course, if changes are needed, they shouldWe begin with the same can be said of any relationship: both among family members (parent - child, husband - wife), and between friends. »Behavioral psychology» established: if you change your habitual reaction to any situation that took place in you change soon change and the situation itself. For example, if you will respond differently to the child's behavior, it is about to change, this is the essence of education of parents: it is necessary to change the parent plant and a reaction to the behavior of children.
Of course, many of you will say to themselves: »I'd like to get this information a few years ago! Ginny ten years, and I understand what mistakes were; admitted to me in the formative years of her character, I do not want to repeat them, raising little Julia! »Please do not feel guilty or blame themselves for past mistakes. You can have a doctorate in psychology and, nevertheless, to make a lot of mistakes in the upbringing of children, just childless psychologist who developed six theories about child-rearing; ended the same story that he was married, he had six children, and all his theories collapsed! Despite the fact that most of us have not received absolutely no training in parenting, we still manage to much, and it's amazing that our children are growing up so good.
Guilt is not conducive to properparent education, and the fact that you learn to improve your own parenting skills, shows that your children you care. Poor parents rarely undertake such an effort or do so too late. Why not focus on failures and do not reproach yourself for what you are again and again slipping into old habits. On the contrary, try to strengthen the self-esteem and self-worth, remembering those times when you have been successful as a parent. Recognize that you are fallible, but it does not destroy their human dignity and parent. This will help you not to lose courage. Excellence in parenting is an elusive goal, but improvements are possible. So gradually model the individual skills. To learn how to apply the principles outlined in this book, it will take time, but in a small correction - this is a step forward. Therefore rejoice, when you test the new method gives a positive result!
Since then, just as sin entered into the world, Satanpytetsya systematically destroy the family, because he knows that by destroying the family, he will be able to wipe out entire nations. And although most people do not know about his machinations, he intrudes into all areas of family life, deceiving, seducing, introducing confusion and then often splits families.
Eternal consequences
God, who is also concerned about the state of ourfamilies, encourages interested parents to stand up for family relations, and if our families will be built on a solid foundation, we will not have to fear the future. Most importantly - whose image reflect the parents, because it affects the child will develop in any way. So who do you belong to - God or the enemy?
