In the middle of marriage and romancepride in their new family gave way to dull uniformity. At this time, parents have to get used to perform less exciting responsibilities: to attend parent meetings at school, to take back the children to meetings and back, make sure that they carry out the lessons, and resolve conflicts between children. As children get older tension between husband and wife usually increases. At this time, they have to make important decisions about meeting their teens, their future learning, career guidance and social circle. Any discrepancy between the spouses in the past experience in educational methods or about the future of children is especially painful is perceived at this time. To live in harmony in this period of life together, you need to combine family ideals and set a common goal. In some families, the transition easily and smoothly, while in others there are irreconcilable clash between father, mother and child due to the fact that they set themselves different goals. The husband and wife must work together to achieve their goals, and in this critical time of joint mid-life satisfaction of spouses to each other is lowered to the lowest level. How did the couple lose the happiness that they experienced at the beginning of life together?
Initially, women feel an enormous personalsatisfaction from marriage Finally, they reach the goal to which aspired ever since the first time I realized the difference between boys and girls. But by that time, when the family comes first child, a woman from the personal satisfaction of marriage is reduced by half and continued to fall throughout the middle period of life together.
Большинство женщин крайне болезненно воспринимают изменения в супружеских отношениях, тогда как многие мужчины не имеют никакого представления об истинных чувствах своей жены. Если его одежда всегда выстирана и выглажена, если его вовремя кормят, если его сексуально удовлетворяют, что еще нужно мужчине? Чего еще он может ожидать? А она тем временем «лезет на стену» от того, что не получает от него эмоциональной поддержки, в которой так нуждается. Мужчины вполне могут довольствоваться деловым стилем жизни. Романтика для мужа — это дополнительное преимущество, но он не испытывает в ней такой сильной потребности, как жена.
On the other hand, in the first years of marriage,personal satisfaction when the wife is at a high level, a man does not feel great satisfaction. Why? When they were married, he, for example, has only studied the profession, which has decided to devote their energies and abilities, and had to get a little prestige in working to support his family. Over the years, the husband gradually moved up through the ranks, and now, when he has exceeded 40, it takes a good position and a more stable financial position than before. While satisfaction with life increases her husband, wife mood getting worse. The crisis begins to grow!
After studying the chart on the next page,You define yourself when your marriage is likely to be most at risk. Yes, it is in the middle of the joint life. At the same time, husbands often do not realize this, because derive great satisfaction from their work. Meanwhile, their wives come into a rage, because they do not know how to tell her husband about her inner emptiness: the physical, mental and spiritual (remember, the above statistics indicate only general trends, but does not apply to each couple, without exception).
Children affect the marriage is not only whensee the light, but also when they leave the house. Left alone, the husband and wife have to again adjust their marital roles, this applies primarily to the mothers to devote himself to the education of children. When the last child leaves home, mother literally swells the ranks of the unemployed. The loneliness, the emptiness and futility of existence quickly piled on her and severely oppress her soul. Umolkshy house resembles a mother's past years of noisy, filled with intense activity. If a woman is motherhood gave all his strength, now it begins to doubt his own dignity as a woman. She can grieve about the care of children and to question the uniqueness of its parent. Children, she rose to her feet somehow survive in this world, and how to be a mother?