If the child believes himself to be bad, it will not push it to rectify; if he thinks he's good, it will not protect it from occurring in the life of the traps. The problem of self-esteem is solved as all the previous ones: give your child a mercy combined with truth, and he will find sufficient reliability to meet reality. For all the distortions of self-esteem, image of self and the like we can offer one remedy: the child needs to receive enough grace, and then he can be who he really is.

First the child needs to develop his true "I". He needs a sufficient amount of grace to accept and manifest in your relationships, in every moment of this relationship is the true "I". He must know that he may fail, feel the pain, not
to achieve perfection, and that's fine. It
needs to feel safe, opens when in a relationship its "dark side".

If a person will be able to accept himself as he is, his pain, his problems will find healing. There is no problem that could allow the love and care of parents. But if the child feels that he needs to hide his "I", its problems are not resolved; as the tumor started, they will grow in depth more and more.