You - I, I - you | The false accusation

Where are our scenario? They are »written» in response to pain, most often experienced in childhood. For example, the father left or died, did not give something important, but it left a feeling of powerlessness. Raised a girl trying to cope with it - throwing men occurs only with dependent or lives with a sense of »shortage» of a loved one.

This offense is addressed to his father, and to get rid of it,like any other, with the help of a partner is impossible. Even if it will fill you with gifts, learn how to make romantic surprises or without reminders will start to wash dishes or pick up the child from the kindergarten - everything will not just be enough. After all, if sincerely take care, will reveal the painful contrast: a father that I did not give it! It is terrible to look into the eyes of their own pain, it is better to hide from her for the other senses. And the pain is stronger, the less satisfying relationships chooses a woman.

But even parting and a new novel - not an option, themore if everything else was good. Not completed in childhood theme repeated in different variations. It is necessary to destroy the matrix, unbalance the very type of interaction, otherwise it will be like the joke about working with defense companies: collected from parts stolen carriage and turned the machine gun again.

Look for the cause in itself:

• YOU HAVE A HARD IT? TO TAKE CARE. Behind it there is a strong sense of guilt. Perhaps parents raised you with conviction, »Love must be earned,» and you feel obliged »gave back». Or because of low self-esteem you do not believe that is worthy of the best and has the right to accept tokens.

• DO YOU GIVE THAT WHAT IS NOT P? AXISAnd tired. For example, after working varish soup, although not a favorite against the order a pizza. This pattern is typical for women who have grown up with the infantile or depressed mothers requiring otdetey what to do in a couple of man, and those accustomed to invest zadvoih.

The matter is still not in you:

• RELATIONS ORIGINALLY Fold so that a man in them playing the role of the child, and you- The role of the mother. This requires of thee a great deal of energy and does not bring satisfaction. With such dynamics may not be enough to work with vicious personal »matrix», although if you have changed, the balance of forces will be different.

• A man is NUST? OEAN ONLY ON POT? EVALUATION. By inclined narcissistic personality,which in childhood or desperately lacking attention, or, on the contrary, they were brought up like little kings. With this you always think that you »try a little», although is laid out on the full and feel unloved and miserable.