As children grow, change methodsexpression of grace and truth. In different periods of their lives, children need different forms of kindness and discipline. But the formula remains the same: mercy and truth must go hand in hand. Here'sa table showing different expressions of grace and truth, for children of all ages.
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| ВОЗРАСТ | MERCY | TRUE | ||
| � | Infancy (the first year of life) | Remember totally dependent infant. Generously poured out upon him the sympathy and empathy.
� Feed him and change diapers and sliders as needed. � Soothes and comforts him when he was ill.</ Td> | Remember that you still do not have nearlyto build a framework for it. Enough with him and that the harsh truth that he was alone, hungry, separated from the mother, totally dependent and not always on time may be comforted.
� As a child at the end of the first yearLife starts to get used to the daily routine, enter a clear schedule of feeding and sleep, let him endure the frustration, when all its real needs are met.</ Td> | � |
| � | Раннее детство | Sympathy for the child, remember his immaturity.
� Do not forget to comfort him when making the remark. � Aim of its research activity. � Remember his fear of separation and greater independence, do not ask him beyond his scope. � After each penalty restore contact with the child, supporting him the feeling that he is loved.</ Td> | Enter rules and boundaries that structure the daily routine, give the child more space for development. But at the same time set boundaries, prohibiting certain types of behavior.
� Enter penalties and corrective measures. � Teach him the language. � Teach your child to accept failures. � Limit gusts to defiance, but do it with love. � Require him greater independence, leave your child with a babysitter, put him to bed one. � Avoid unnecessary and vagaries of extreme aggression. � Instill social kavyki, in particular, the ability to behave at the table, saying »thank you» and »please», to use the toilet.</ Td> | � |
| Childhood (approximately 3 to 12 years) | Train various sciences and skills, providing opportunities for new knowledge.
Encourage your child in the process of teaching. � Give him ample opportunity to experience. � Treat with understanding its failure, have patience. � Learn to forgive. � In accordance with the merits of the child give him more freedom and other benefits.</ Td> | Establishes rules to ensure the safety of the child.
� Put him in front of the problem, develop a sense of responsibility. � Punished for disobedience or neglect of duties. Learn more sophisticated social skills, etiquette, care in relation to other people. � Require that the child take responsibility for his actions to himself and admitted he was wrong.</ Td> | ||
| boyhood | You must understand tearing teenager conflicting feelings: the need for dependence and impulse to sovereign existence.
� Goodbye characteristic of this age testing boundaries and denying discipline. � Provide adolescents with more freedom, so that he could understand their addiction and make a choice. � Treat with understanding the adolescent desire to develop its own system of values. � Give him more freedom to the extent that it will prove to be mature enough. � Provide more opportunities for independence and the development of existing skills. � Demonstrate empathy for the sorrows and failures, which results in the early experience of the teenager and his vulnerability.</ Td> | Set clear boundaries and moral standards.
� In that case, if the child does not show enough responsibility, punish him by cutting his right. � Require a teenager he earned his pocket money. � Make sure then that he had organized their time and business. � Set boundaries and avoid inappropriate displays of disrespect, aggression, and sexual promiscuity. � � �</ Td> | ||
| Study in College | Show respect for the awakening sexuality of boys or girls.
� Encourage and encouraged him. Offers his advice and financial assistance. � Make your home a safe haven for your child, where he could deal with the problems and loss. � Give him the opportunity to choose their own purpose and direction in life.</ Td> | Define clear rules: who pays for what.
� Install the specific principles, according to which you will be to provide financial or other support to a child who has reached the age of student. � Honestly share your doubts and emotions about the adopted child making. Expresses his opinion: that the »do you think it would be best for the child. � Let him take decisions and is responsible for their consequences. Do not include your child how he should dispose of his time. � Set some boundaries in your life together. Let the children have grown up with you are responsible for maintaining order in the house, etc. � Imposes clear legal and moral requirements of the people living in your home. For example, warn that in my house, you will not tolerate drugs.</ Td> | ||
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As you can see, in relation to the newly risenbaby feet on mercy and truth are expressed in very different ways than the adolescent. However, the formula remains the same: in the education of both elements must be present. Re-read the recommendations in one of the columns of this table, and try to imagine what would happen to the child receiving mercy from their parents only or just the truth. Few parents would be willing to adhere to the rules set forth in one of the columns, but nevertheless, in practice, many parents (even for some time), often followed by only one half of the table. But to ensure that the child develops the character, it is in every moment of communication with parents should receive, and mercy, and truth.
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