Further, in the best of circumstances verydifficult to teach your child new skills and help him get rid of bad habits. Naturally, in this program should involve both parents, if they want to process moved faster. Both parents need to discuss what consolidation program is best applied, and they need to agree in advance what fixing incentives and penalties will be most effective. Otherwise dad can develop a type of behavior, and my mother - quite the opposite (for single parents, at least, there is no problem!). Therefore, start the program secure positive behavior, discussing tactics, which both of you will stick to. Between you can be held about the following conversation:
Dad: »Barry has worsened behavior, and I think we need to do something, do not you think?».
Mom: »I have something to do in this direction. When I was quite angry with him, he begins to listen. »
Dad: »Yes, you're doing just that, but without much success. Before me every now and then I hear your cries and cries and I can not stand them. I think we could probably achieve the desired results if started to stimulate and reinforce his good behavior and discourage bad. »
Mom: »I do not think that parents should give theirchildren points, stars and give them kisses only for the fact that they fulfill the necessary obligations which have to do, and so in the first place. this does not happen in the real world. When was the last time you paid a premium for something that you are not late for work? »
Dad: »Be true, my dear. He begins to perceive better our demands if we reward him every time for good behavior, instead of yelling at him for bad behavior. Let's develop a plan for him and agree on compensation, to which he can not resist. This program will help you keep the nerves, will start as soon as the son to do what is expected of him. »
Mom: »Yes, I agree with the fact that too often scold Barry, but I was very upset its behavior. Try this program. »
A good slogan for parents could be the words: Observe your child's good behavior and reward him for it. Stop play the role of police officers home, catching the child for poor classes, stop yelling at him. Instead, try to see the good behavior in order to secure his praise.
When you properly apply allthe principles set out in this chapter, you will find that your child has developed a responsible behavior and a positive self-image. All this will be a real advantage in achieving your ultimate goal: to help the child to develop fully.
