Самое сложное для родителей — «отпустить» своих подростков. Родителям-христианам в большинстве случаев это сделать еще труднее, чем светским родителям. Родителям, имеющим глубокие религиозные убеждения, чрезвычайно трудно даже помыслить о том, чтобы позволить своему недорослю самостоятельно жить в современном мире, ибо они прекрасно понимают, какие опасности ему угрожают. Вот почему многие из них проявляют чрезмерное рвение и пытаются make your teen to take the »right» decision.
Harry and in this sense we feel asif the court found us guilty. We tried desperately to keep themselves when our eldest daughter. Once, in despair of their inability to convey to us their feelings in words, our daughter laid out on paper, sent a letter to Harry.
»Drogo Daddy, forgive me for what I have arguedwith you tonight - I did not want that. I want to tell you is that I not only doubly daughter, but also personality. I agree with the fact that I have 20 years and I am an independent person, a thinking person capable of many things. I wish I was allowed to make their own choices and to be treated like an adult. I'm sorry, but I'm not the same 2-year-old girl who was so fond of hiding behind your back. I'm an adult and I want myself to be responsible for his life, for what I do - even if I do not clean up the house in time and do not cook dinner. Who are you trying to protect: yourself or me? Please, let me at least not for long stay itself. Perhaps you do not like much of what I do, but I also learn from my mistakes. Please let me be myself! »
No matter how we tried, we would not have succeeded andfurther make Carlin dance to our tune. Those days have long passed. We had to accept the fact that we either have done their »homework» or neglected it. We could not go back and do it all over again.
We have only eighteen or twenty yearsthe fact to convince a child the right values. Then there comes a time when it is necessary to pursue a policy called »hands-off», how hard we may be looking at these mistakes our »krovinochku» who are able to darken its future and even deprive her salvation. We know how difficult it is, because they themselves lived through it, but we can rely on the fact that the divine power will come to the aid of our daze and lead him to the right decision. But the likelihood that your child will make the right decisions, significantly increased if he does not have to defend their maturity and independence in battle with you.