Sex, alcohol, marijuana and more serious drugs can ruin lives, and it is in this area most often the problem starts in adolescents. The best time to prevent these complications, thoroughly preparing and teaching the child. You have to instill in him a positive attitude with regard to sexual relations, but under the condition of unconditional respect boundaries. Borders should match reality: God's commandments in this area take into account the real danger of sexually transmitted diseases, the use of the partner and the abuse of relations, destruction of the relationship (both in the present and in the future), pregnancy and personality changes. A heightened sense of guilt and shame, on the contrary, contradicts reality. Podroska explain the reasons for certain prohibitions, pick them suitable for samples with which they could identify themselves.
If you find that your child is already having sex, try to find out the cause of this. When the family imposed rules of morality, sexual activity teenager can be a symptom of some other problem: it may be that he experiences depression, frustration, losing the battle for the right to dispose of his life, he's lonely, has no internal borders and not know how to refuse, suffers from being too "hard" of morality, etc. do Not consider the violation of the rules in itself — the temptation to do "bad" often occurs in the absence of something "good". If teenager seems that don't like him or that he doesn't have a life, he might prefer sex as a means to feel loved and that fit. In other cases, it's a way to get revenge too oppressive parents. Understand what exactly is missing for your child.
The same applies to drugs. Child need samples and education, are tied to reality. Teach him to provide the required information. Craving for drugs is a very serious problem, in no event it is impossible to close her eyes. Quite often, teenagers try alcohol, but you should take it seriously, and strictly, especially if your child gets behind the wheel drunk or if it is not about a single experiment. If the child admits the abuse of alcohol or use of alcohol, discuss the situation, but does not deliver him from the boundaries and consequences. It is very important, the example he sees at home. If you behave responsibly, is likely to be responsible and your child, but if he does not show maturity, set necessary limits and restrictions. Definitely a fallback plan: tell the child that he can call you from anywhere if you want to take him home, helped to cope with a difficult situation or somehow bailed him out.
If a child uses forbidden means and your warnings do not stop him, think of it as a serious problem and not be distracted from it until you are sure that the child got rid of this dangerous habit. As a rule, the last of the dangerous propensities of a person close to learn. Seek the help of pleasures who knows how to treat teenage drug addiction or alcoholism. In the most difficult cases you have to tell a teenager that in your home drugs is not the place and he'd have to leave the house and not return until he rid of this habit.
