1. Ideally, for the child needs both parents.
Родитель-одиночка, как правило, не может удовлетворить все потребности своего ребенка, и это не его вина. Когда родителей двое, один дополняет другого: у одного лучше получается формирование привязанности, у другого — структура. Допустим, интуиция подсказывает вам, что чувствует ребенок, «где у него болит», но у вас начнутся проблемы, когда придет пора устанавливать границы в области учебы и поведения в школе.
Take a good look at their weaknesses and advantages,try to understand what you do not handle what your child needs for development. Establish a good relationship in the church, among neighbors and friends and ask these people to help you is what you do not manage, you will need helpers, ready for a long time to connect to the education of your child.
John Townsend
When I was not married, I regularly visitedseveral families with young children. These people invited me to his home, and I was playing the role of older brother in relation to their kids. Such relationships were dear to me and the children. They allowed me to get in touch with the real problems of the family, which tries to create a home atmosphere of love and security, work through conflicts, honestly and openly discuss their problems. These relationships have helped me prepare for married life.
You also get the help of friends, the congregation of your church or other organizations.
2. Children are demanding.
Lone parent a child can bring tocomplete exhaustion. When two parents, they substitute for each other, but single parents happen to say: »I love the kid, but sometimes when it does not give me a break, I downright hate it, and that makes me worse.»
As the child grows, and you, and heshort separation will only benefit. You can arrange with other parents and take turns to replace each other. Ask friends and relatives sometimes give you the day off. You will return to your child with a new strength and joy will continue to communicate with him.
3. The training is based on relationships.
Родителям, состоящим в постоянных отношениях друг с другом, легче убедить ребенка в своей любви, поскольку они сами любимы. Более того, ребенок видит перед собой модель отношений, ведь родители отдают свою любовь не только ему, но и друг другу.
Insulation, claims to self-sufficiency - here are your worst enemies. You have to constantly communicate openly with God and reliable people to invest their time in personal relationships.
4. Two of the parents help the child to enter the world of other people. First, the child forms the attachment to the mother. In his view, it is integral to his mother, and his father, although close to him, plays a secondary role. At the end of the second year of life, the father comes to the fore, helping the child to separate from the mother. Baby begins to wonder relationships with others, and gradually it emerges from the all-consuming relationship with her mother.
In the early years of a child's life you need to findreliable and constant friends of the opposite sex - friends, but not lovers (we'll talk about a little less than the novels). These people will help your child to master the world of people, other than the mother. This is a very important task, because single parents are usually too are shaking the child and it is difficult to let him go, let him become attached to someone else. Groups odinokihlyudey for the church, mugs studying the Bible together, family support groups - here you can find reliable friends, including a loving, stable couples.
5. Two of the parents help the child to overcome self-centeredness.
Gradually the child begins to notice that her motherHe loves not only him alone. For him, this is a new reality, and it must accept this fact, get used to it and learn to share the love and give your loved one free.
В вашем доме должны как можно больше бывать, а если удастся, то и жить другие взрослые — пусть они занимаются своими делами, едят, играют, работают, отдыхают. Ребенок должен видеть, как вы общаетесь с другими людьми.
6. Родители корректируют и уравновешивают друг друга. If one of them errs, the other it corrects, and the child does not become a victim of some blunders or shortcomings of their parents.
Let the people in your life with good characterand ask them to correct your mistakes in the field of education. Become a member of a reliable support groups for single parents, and this will help you to deal with this problem.
