Большинство родителей стремятся к тому, чтобы их дети стали взрослыми. Результативность их труда определяется не тем, как дети ведут себя сегодня, а тем, что будет с ними после того, как они покинут родительский дом. Представьте себе, как ваши дети проявят себя в следующих областях жизни:

study - put power to ensure itself the further life and professional career;

Job - grow professionally;

personal life - pick yourself a mature partner with the right value system;

marriage - associate themselves with a person for life and work with him to strengthen his family;

friendship - give birth to a close group of friends, whose support can count;

personal values ​​and behavior - carefully think through what is important to them, and live according to the correct system of values;

spiritual life - create active relationship with God.

This list will help you determine the finefunctioning adult, able to cope with life and take their place in the world. Such a person knows that it is important for him, and can focus their efforts on these matters. He is conscious and their limitations and can refer to some external sources to get what he is unable to provide himself.

God designed your child eventually becomefunctionally independent from you. And this is the only kind of relationship in which God evaluates results according to how successfully terminated the relationship. You invest all efforts in helping your child with time to get away from you. The Bible teaches us that a man must leave father and mother (see. Genesis 2:24). retain - This means to leave. Every mother, every father, every parent who loves their child, bringing him many victims, should be prepared to the injury which will cause him growing up and care of the child at home. Mature people are happy and will carry this trauma, because they know that their contribution to the child will bear fruit.

Unfortunately, children are not always wellreach adulthood. Sometimes they did not leave the house too long remain dependent on their parents, or, having lost the dependence on the parents, and can not function well in love or work. Externally are adults, but deep down they are either undeveloped or coerced by.