Sorrow

When a child gets sympathy with hisloss, pain, failure, it may take a loss reality mourn her and say goodbye to the fact that he is so valued and lost. We have to say goodbye to the desire to win, if, instead of winning overtaken defeated, leave the failed love, humbly acknowledge the lack of a talent, to experience the pain caused by hands or tongue of someone from their peers. But, whatever the loss, the reality and sympathy will help the child to mourn her and move on.

There is only one way to comfort. As Jesus said: »Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted» (Matthew 5: 4). Crying will find comfort and be able to live on.

That's why I told my mother turned to meat the seminar that its main task - to teach a child to play. If a child will be able to accept defeat, he finds solace and move on. But for those who are stuck at the stage of protest against the reality that there is no consolation, because the reality does not change. The ability to play well implies the ability to move from misery to comfort, and it is truly a gift from God.

Решение проблемы

The next stage - a solution. Unable to cope with the task before reaching their goal, we need to understand why fail, and try again.

As a child, I loved to play golf, and I was many timesI had a chance to go through this cycle: after losing a match, I was angry, ready to protest violently, but through change, I could not. And then the wisdom of my coach came to my aid. Coach helped me to understand that everyone at some point fails. This is an integral part of the game. Having compassion from him and other people, I felt sadness, and then found solace. And yet matured solution: the next day at six in the morning I hurried to the playground and trained, trained, persistently trying to find a fatal mistake, which cost me a win, and fix it. As a person grows.

Решить проблему — значит обнаружить, в чем была наша ошибка, по возможности исправить ее и двигаться дальше. При этом укрепляется характер и стремление к цели.

In human relations problems solutionIt includes forgiveness and reconciliation. If the child is guilty and was punished, it can solve this problem, he repented and apologized to those he hurt, and asking for forgiveness. If the child - the injured person, he can still cope with this problem by offering forgiveness to those who hurt him.

In both areas of life - and in the relationship, andfunctional area - a way to solve the problem alone: ​​you have to accept the reality of a face-to-face, »digest» the pain, get comfort, to mourn the loss - and move on to the next step. In the area of ​​operation, it means »to sit down again in the saddle», ie to try again, and in the relationship - to recognize what happened, repent, forgive and reconcile. At the same time, God wants us to not stay in place and moving forward. No pain, no sin, no damage, nothing else can stop us if we have the ability to accept the reality, there is comfort, the ability to cry and courage to continue your journey. Our Lord wraps up victory for any damage. If we learn to play we can win, too.

This is one of the most important lessons for your child. There is no such troubles, which could not heal the ability to accept the truth with grace and courage keeps us alive. This is the formula of happiness.