I often hear from people »love me the way I amthere »- when I say that someone has done wrong, or simply express their opinion. I can not understand - people really should not be changed or it is my excessive demands?
Nastya
-> Nastya, of course, people have to change, ideallygrow. But for yourself, not for your »watering». You can not change a person (in this you are likely to suspect and when they say »love this ...»), but you can help him to change behavior and become better. It is in this form, you need to submit your opinion: do not »You're wrong!» And »IMHO, in this situation it is better to do this way because ...». Most people belong to adequately understand the advice and benefit from the opinion, if it is not a statement about your exclusive right, and a sincere concern for people. By the way, the requirements you need to be for others, but only to itself. When loved ones understand that you yourself open to criticism, which is distributed will be different to listen to you. And you do not doubt that the main thing - it is love. »Love me for who I am» - a cry for love, not that people carved image and does not want to change. He wants, he just needs to know that you will love it unconsciously. If he did not even think to question it, and no doubt will be your advice.
Always think about the future, and always negative: no one meeting in the profession can not take place, because there is always someone better with friends ever disperse ... Sometimes it seems that there is nothing ahead.
Varya
-> Varia, the most useful setting: »Come what may, but I will try to make it right.» Ask your brother to introduce you to a cute friend Arrange a surprise for your friends, you must understand where the gaps in knowledge, and hard to deal with. And if something goes wrong, do not despair, because you are a magician, and at any moment you could snap your fingers and change the future - just thinking of the present, from which all depends.
82% of respondents admitted that they are afraid of the future. At 45%, this fear prevents to achieve your goals.
Such problem: as soon as I see an acquaintance on the street, I start to panic. Recently I ran out of the store, where it was with my dad, because saw a classmate. I can not cope with such reactions.
Masha
-> Masha, most likely, you just do not know howto behave in such situations. For the same reason, many when they see familiar people, lowered eyes, pretend that they called and so on. D. »Greet? And if you do not know me and do not answer ?! Or then tell everyone that I buy porridge bags? »- Are blocked by these thoughts, feel free to go forward and politely nod. Even if it turns out that this is not your friend.
But the men the following advice - if you somehow guilty before his second half, then do not try to know the psychology of women, as it is a futile exercise, but just give her flowers Tver (http://tver.mrflowers.ru/). Роскошный букет растопит сердце любой красавицы и позволит ей простить вас. И не забудьте подкрепить свой подарок теплыми и нежными словами, которые позволят ей понять, что вы действительно цените и любите ее всем сердцем.</p>
