Режим дня может меняться в зависимости от региона и даже от конкретной общины. Поговорите с родителями других детей, выясните, до которого часа они отпускают своих отпрысков из дома. Вы не должны налагать ограничения, если они помешают вашему ребенку общаться с другими детьми, но вы обязаны ограничить его пребывание вне дома, учитывая сопряженные с этим осложнения и требования морали.
Sometimes, to be out there in the late hoursdangerous, in other cases, in general it appears that the teenager should not have to go to this or that place. If your child is old enough and responsible, if he has reason for being late and it just warned you that the delay - take it graciously. The boundaries of good and absolutely necessary, they attach to the structure of a child's life. However, the »Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath» - that is, the border exists for the sake of your child, not the child was born, to respect the boundaries.
The teenager has the right to self-selection inthe field of spiritual life, but you need to help him get closer to God and your faith. As long as the child is not left for college (where he himself will decide for itself), you should do everything in your power to encourage him to go to church and Sunday school. However, at the same time give him a choice: perhaps a teenager does not like service in your church, or he is not friends with the young people in your community, then let him looking for a place to their liking. The main thing that he went to church, no matter in what kind, if only we are not talking about the sect.
Рассказывает Генри Клауд
Do not use religion as an instrument of control. My parents comply with the correct policy in this regard. When I was fifteen years old, they said that I can not go to church, if you do not want, but nothing in the clock can not be done. They put it like this: »Our family gives this watch God. If you do not want to go to church, do not go, nothing else but you, too, can not do. » Any dispute on this occasion we did not have. They do not control me, but just to set boundaries - and I chose the church.
However, the spiritual life is not confined to theattending church. Every day we are living in accordance with spiritual values of love, loyalty, honesty, compassion, forgiveness, hope, honesty disposing of his life and talents. You yourself are obliged to live in accordance with them, otherwise the baby annoy your hypocrisy: you say one thing and do another! And you need to set boundaries and to intervene when a child is trying to break them. Punish him if he deviates from these values, or later, and God, and the life will punish him. The Lord and the reality show that our values - it is not arbitrarily set the rules, and life itself, and the one who does not comply with these rules, will pay dearly for it.
