The most successful method of behavior managementbased on the consolidation law, the essence of which is that the behavior by which a person achieves the desired effects, be sure to repeat. Simply put, if the child likes a result of his behavior, he is likely to become repeat it. If Linda does a new hairstyle and receives numerous compliments, she will continue to be cut in this way. If Billy is trying a new way of hitting in baseball and succeeds, he will continue to use this new technique.
Unfortunately, many mothers and fathers unknowinglyuse the law fixing, developing in children intolerable behavior. For example, the mother meets her friend at the store and stopped to chat with her. Little Martin in a quiet voice asked mom about something. Since the mother is absorbed in conversation with a friend, it does not respond to the child's request. Martina's voice becomes louder and capricious, and she moan as long as my mother did not impatient. Sounds familiar? In the end, my mother interrupts the conversation and listened to the girl. By doing so, mom fixes from Martina habit of speaking in a loud voice and moody. Let's look at the class in which the study of 48 first-graders. Two teachers are preparing to hold classes in reading in small groups, at the end of grade two college students sitting quietly in a row for a few days is fixed, how often the teacher is told to take the children and how many children jump out of their seats every 10 seconds for 20 minutes.
During the first six days about threechildren jump out of their seats every 10 seconds. Teachers say »sit» about seven times in 20 minutes. When the teacher asked the children often say that they sat quietly, they began to talk about it 27 times instead of seven for all the same 20 minutes. Strange things began to happen. Children were more likely to wake up. Now, on average, 4.5 children get up every 10 seconds. Teachers more often, the children rarely gave orders, but more often they say »sit», the more the children got up!
In the end, the teachers were asked to dostop talking to children, so they sat down, and at the same time ordered to praise those who sit and work. Now, less than two children got up every 10 seconds. The words »sit» was fixed in children the desire to get up. Teachers believed that children sit order pays off because their children listen to. However, this was only an interim result. Teachers did not notice the long-term consequences of such tactics, until they are pointed out to them.
The same is true for the parents. The more a parent criticizes, scolds and punishes the child, the worse his behavior. Let us learn what behavior should be rewarded, and what to ignore.
