Self-esteem — the key to the future of your child

Category: the Art of being a parent | 11 октября 2015, 08:40

Leon Chalco was the fourth of eight children in a family of immigrants who moved from Poland to Michigan state four months before his birth. His father worked as a janitor and her mother a laundress. The family frequently moved from place to place. The time was difficult, and dreams of a better life crumbled in his eyes. When the boy was 12 years old, his mother died shortly after the birth of the eighth child. Only she could take care of the boy because he was the only one who he held dear. At a young age the boy was thrown to the mercy of fate, no one before him was not His father and could not succeed in this life. Burdened with their own problems, he remained indifferent to the needs of children. Then my father remarried, and the family settled on a small farm.

The boy grew up in hardship and poverty. No one seriously not interested in him, and he dragged out a miserable existence, suffering from loneliness, feeling disgusted with himself and being deeply unhappy. He managed to finish five classes, because in the family he was known as a "scientist", the Boy led a secluded life in the world of magazines and Newspapers, which he developed extreme shyness. The boy has no close friends, except one of the brothers. He grew up extremely cleanly and not endured the ferocity further in relation to insects. He was catching flies in the house, and then carefully stand them on the porch and let loose,

At age 13, the boy began to work at the factory of glass, and then moved on to the tedious work at the wire mill. Being lonely and introverted, he met with his peers, especially his difficulties in getting friendly with girls. For this reason he never had his girl. He was relatively small in stature (about five feet seven inches) and slender physique (weighed only sixty pounds).

This young man was nice, but aloof employee. He never argued, but often visited and avidly read numerous Newspapers and magazines, outlining extremely radical views, which he liked. He frequented the gatherings of socialists and thoroughly carried away by the theories of the anarchists. He earned little, and his life was bleak and harsh.

When the young man was 25 years old, his character has changed dramatically. Externally healthy and normal factory worker disappeared, and instead appeared pale and excited potential criminal. He soon resigned and settled on his father's farm, where very much asleep. Waking up, he again and again read anarchist literature. The young man was prescribed medication to help get rid of adverse symptoms, however, they were not. His mental condition continued to deteriorate. Every day he reveled in his desperation, wanted to be left alone, constantly quarreled with her stepmother and became more and more withdrawn and irritable. He began eating alone in her room, preferring to be alone. Unhealthy thirst sensations made him every evening for many weeks to read the story about the murder of a prominent figure.

When our "hero" was 28 years old, he left the farm and began to move aimlessly from town to town, attending meetings of anarchists. The last blow to the dignity he struck all the same the fellow-anarchists who refused to accept him into their organization. He was finally confirmed in the opinion that he's a loser, and even more to hate themselves.

One day he read in the newspaper that U.S. President William McKinley plans in early September to attend the pan American exhibition in Buffalo and personally greet the people gathered there. He had read it with great interest. And here the poor hermit came to the exhibition. Silent and unsmiling, he spent several days wandering around the exhibition grounds. Many saw him, but nobody remembered. He carefully studied all the newspaper reports about the impending arrival of the President and at the same time quietly made the necessary preparations: I bought a short-barreled revolver and learned to hide weapons in your hand under a handkerchief.

Come 6 September. Nobody paid attention to a small man in a neat gray suit. Molen would have thought that this was a simple worker, who, along with thousands of other people came to greet the President During this public reception William McKinley ten minutes talking to people. It's been seven or
eight minutes before the young man approached the President and held out his left hand. The President, seeing that his right hand as if bandaged, tried to greet him also with his left hand. The killer removed the hand of the President and fired two shots through the handkerchief from so close that the fire burned the vest of the President

At the hospital William McKinley came was in, but eight days later he died with the words Christian anthem
on the lips, "Nearer, my God to Thee." The trial of Leon F. Chalcogen took place four days after the funeral of President McKinley. He lasted eight and a half hours. After some discussion only thirty-four minutes, the jury determined that the killer is sane, and convicted him. After fifty-three days after the assassination of President Chalco was executed in the electric chair.

On the court, he said: "I saw many people welcomed the President, bowed to him and
gave all kinds of honors. This is wrong." Being in a prison cell shortly before the execution of Leon wrote a confession: "I killed McKinley because he desired to do his duty. I believe that it is impermissible for one person to provide such honors, while on the other no one is paying attention". And because no one respected Leona Colkege, not loved, not appreciated it and
didn't pay any attention to him, he dared to raise a hand against one of the most respected of America's presidents.

Although not every child left without supervision and attention, becomes a murderer, we can almost certainly say that this child won't develop self-esteem. People may not be as aggressive as Chalco, but everywhere we can see what the results come those who feel their own inferiority. Doubts in your abilities, inferiority complex interfere with a person throughout life. Why do so many people not love themselves? Because parents do not know how to create a family of conditions under which the child would develop self esteem.