On the “mom's” forum sold out: discussing children's sleep. Thousands of posts of unhappy, tired, lost faith in their parents....
Tatiana writes: “In March we expect replenishment, and every day I become more and more panicked. The fact that older (she is now 2 years) does not allow us to sleep. She wakes up 10-12 times a night, and every time I'm sick, lay in bed with us, then put in the crib... That will be when you have a brother?!” “My daughter is a month and a week, and it is not sleeping itself — only in an embrace with me — complaining about Marina. — I can't do anything around the house: it is necessary to put her in her crib or in a “cocoon”, and she immediately opens her eyes... do Not lose hope that one day the daughter still sleep there, but at least I can head to wash...”
“Son of a year and a half, and I, apparently, have not learned to lay them down for NAPs, — says Elena. — On the breast she falls asleep. On the hands, on the fitball, in the crib not okazivaetsa. Falling asleep once in the car seat, but I can't every day be wrapped around the car in circles around the house!”
According to statistics, sleep disturbed every third child up to 6 years, every second it is difficult for parents to put. However, psychologists, pediatricians and somnology blame... the parents. And name several common errors.
Mistake # 1. We late placed children
A recent study showed that two-year old is now sleeping 40 minutes less than their parents at the same age, and all due to late ukladani. Mom and dad get home late from work and want to play with the baby. And they want to see in the evening the TV, read the news on the Internet, discuss with each other how the day went. In the end, the kids are awake till 23.00-24.00. And then — that's surprising: is not tired?! with fight fit.
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The more tired a child is, the harder it is to calm down and sleep. And sleep he is likely to be anxious, you Wake up earlier than you would if put him to bed at the right time. Do not wait until it'm excited and begins to act up or when he opens a “second wind” and begin a new wave of activity. The optimal time for laying in the winter — 18.30-20.30 in the summer —19.00-21.30. "So early?!" — you will be surprised. Yes, but these figures are not taken from the ceiling. It is known that the prolonged phase of deep sleep, during which vistanav-distil upon all systems of the body, are 19.00-01.00. Try to put the child early — he will become more calm, balanced, will make it hurt less.
How much should the baby sleep?
Newborn — 16-20 hours
The child is 1-2 months. — 15-17 h
3-4 months. — 14,5-17 h
5-6 months. The 13.5-16 h
7-8 months. To 13.5-15 h
9-12 months. — 13,5-14,5 h
18 months. — 13-13. 5 h
1-2 years — 12-13 h
3-4 years — 12 hours
5-7 years — 11-11. 5 hours
8-10 years old — 10-11 hours
11-12 years 9-10
13-14 years — 9-9. 5 hours
15-17 years old — 8-9 hours
Mistake # 2. Ukazyvaet them and roll
The parents are so happy when the baby falls asleep while rocking in the pram, sling or car seat! Many mothers and fathers placed so children for NAPs or even at night.
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If the child is over six months old, always sleeping in motion, he is not getting deep regenerative sleep, convinced an American paediatrician Professor mark Weissbluth. Sleep in the sling, moving the stroller and in the car — surface, it can be compared with the adults sleep on the plane. Therefore, it is wiser to rock your child, only to calm him down and relax, and then place it in the crib.
Mistake # 3. Too soon they relocated to the adult bed
No wonder if in 2-3 years the kid will not want to sleep in your room in beautiful bed you bought for crazy money, and will resort to mom and dad, or starting to lose sleep.
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Its a little crib with bars and restraints, many children are ready to leave after only 3 years. Children is psychologically very difficult to stay within some invisible boundaries at this age. Wait until the child Matures to an adult bed.
Mistake # 4. We not that and not feed them
To gather the whole family at the table — it's wonderful and important for psychological comfort in the house. But too late hearty dinner, the adult menu too (the kids want everything like mom and dad) — not the best option if you want to calmly put the baby to sleep and yourself.
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Place children at the table for 1.5 hours before bedtime. Not before and not after, on the one hand, the child will be fed, with the other digestive system is ready to rest. You can fish or poultry with vegetables. Add a garnish of lettuce, corn. Make it a habit to give children the dates, bananas, figs, a glass of milk. For a change — a fruit salad of apples, cherries, raisins, nuts, cottage cheese, very appropriate sweet nutritious evening meal. Bedtime should not give meat, mushroom dishes, they are digested for a long time. And sweet (candy, cookies, etc) is stimulating like caffeine.
Mistake # 5. He come up with bedtime rituals
"Every day is Groundhog day", is doomed to sigh mom. But the regularity, the predictability of the calm children. If they know what will happen next, it gives them confidence.
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Must be a special ritual of falling asleep. Children's day should not break off: "now let's go to bed". The transition from activity to rest is a smooth. Had dinner, took a bath, changed into pajamas, read a book, made out a little (very important!). You can come up with 3-4 activities that will be repeated daily at the same time and relax, to calm, to set a child to sleep. But if the child yawns, forget about the bath and books and bed.
ALL SLEEP!
1. In the dream the baby grows and develops. Children who lack sleep, can lag behind in growth and physical development.
2. At night the baby is resting and recuperating. More and more studies confirm the relationship of ADHD (attention deficit disorder and hyperactivity), and lack of sleep.
3. Sound sleep strengthens the immune system, helps to fight infections. When used regularly, getting enough sleep, the number of immune cells is reduced by 30%.
4. Sleep is necessary to organize knowledge and ideas about the world. Children who didn't sleep much, worse to think, remember, they are more scattered. The increase of the daily requirement of sleep for 1-2 hours may improve the child's success in school.
5. Lack of sleep can cause excess weight. When a man sleeps little, he begins to eat. This applies to adults, adolescents, and toddlers.
6. Sleepy baby = happy, smiling child. Children who little sleep, become unmanageable.
7. Have enough sleep kids sleep mom!
Mistake # 6. Equip the bedroom with the latest technology
Toys, video games, computer, wifi, TV, phone, player, glowing Wallpaper, neon lights, phosphorescent stickers on the ceiling — all of it prevents the baby to fall asleep and affect sleep quality.
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To fall asleep and sleep better even without the light, in a dark, dark room. The children quickly get used to it and not afraid. Pre-K students, if you suddenly have nightmares, you can leave a nightlight with a soft, subdued light while falling asleep. And when the fear period will pass, back to full darkness.
Mistake # 7. Select the incorrect Association with sleep
What adult need to sleep peacefully? Wear cozy pajamas, read a book, talk with loved ones, take cover quilt is our Association with sleep. Now imagine that you fell asleep with the arms of the beloved and under your favorite blanket and woke up, for example, under the table in the kitchen...
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Feel about it the children who are "acacallis" in your arms or in a sling at my mother's, with a pacifier or bottle in his mouth (it's their Association with sleep) and woke up alone in a cold bed. It is no wonder that they'll require the usual conditions. And my mother between sleep cycles, you will have to rock, drink from the bottle, put the pacifier in his mouth... And just about every 45-90 minutes. What can you do? To put a child in conditions as close as possible to those in which he will be the next night of the revival. Ubacivanje child in the blanket and put it in the crib. If you have to walk a few times a night — every time you change the sleep cycle, give up rocking him to sleep at all. Replace them, for example, on the pats.
Mistake # 8. Not supported in the nursery correct temperature and humidity
If the child often wakes up at night, maybe he's just uncomfortable — too hot or too cold. If he often asks to drink, most likely, the air in the bedroom is too dry.
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Choose pajamas for the season. If you are cold, wear socks, kids okutyvaya in a sleeping bag (blanket throw many). Use a humidifier.
New year's night. Payback
Holiday, magic, gifts — we think that we are depriving them of a miracle if a place to sleep. And Yes it is difficult on the background of General chaos. But any significant malfunction results in moods and behavior change the next day. Biorhythms the majority of children focused on early — the child will get up at 7-8 am and just don't get enough sleep. If he celebrates the New year as an adult (only 5 years!), he needs 2-3 hours of sleep the day before.
