Whether we like it or not, but we live in an environmentvast numbers of people. Every day we come into contact with dozens of familiar, unfamiliar, and hundreds of thousands of all strangers. If a person is always based on someone else's opinion, this is a serious obstacle to live. He is forced to play by someone else's rules, and experiences from this constant discomfort. Sometimes a person does not depend on people in general, but from a certain group. Sound familiar? You probably know what are the dependencies, is it you do not like?
Option 1: The dependence of women on men
Insecure woman tryinginterested in a man or keep the relationship in that whatever the cost, trying to fit his ideas. But completely suppressing their individuality, it becomes uninteresting. Understanding this further increases the uncertainty. And not only the beloved, and any entity with a mustache and wearing pants in the shower is the fear of disapproval, »What think of me N?»
This conflict between the needs of internal and external manifestations of a woman makes any remark in his address perceived as criticism and desire to humiliate.
Return the independence of choice and thinking very hard. Therefore, our first step - raise women's self-esteem. Ways are many - from the cardinal change of the situation to the banal conversation with a psychologist.
Option 2: The dependence of man on man
»Do not make yourself an idol» - this wise ideaIt turned into a banal phrase, whereas in everyday life, we often look for himself a role model among the more successful, in our opinion, people. »That's why it's cool all - career, wheelbarrow and beautiful wife? After all, I am no worse. I want it! »- And the race begins for the» ideal ». And all the luck does not want to turn face.
Option 3: Dependence of men from women
The presence of any woman causes stress,fear not match her idea of the perfect man. The man trying to understand what a woman expects from him. Realizing this, instantly puts on the mask of »hero.» Think on this basis can a lasting relationship? The conflict between the real person and it creates a way sooner or later will break out. Man constantly finds himself in the same role: either the victim or the uncompromising dictator. Sometimes a man combines both roles: next to the woman he loved, he plays the role of a servant of the victim, and throws his resentment toward the one who loves himself. He humiliates the second for the humiliation caused to him first, and no one feels happy.
