In adolescence it is necessary to focus on more important tasks to promote the development of the child.
1. Make sure that the child takes into account their preferences, not yours. The desire for independence overshadows the desire to succeed, and the teenager can throw quite a good lesson to him only in order to prove their independence.
2. Support the child in his choice, encourage him, give more attention to the process than the results. What is important is not winning important skills learned on the way to it.
3. Require that the child showed sufficient diligence, especially if its lessons are paying you. In some cases, if the child has more than once proved in practice its responsibility, you can allow him to abandon a new hobby when tasted, he is convinced, that in fact he did not like it. So I came to the swimming - I had it not to his liking, and I stopped going to the pool. And as before, I visited many sports clubs and did not leave them without permission, the parents did not object. With music lessons turned out differently: I play the piano, too, did not like it, but my parents forced me to finish the school year as to throw the case at the very beginning would be to avoid one of the duties of a growing person - always finish the job. I learned not a whole year and, although at the time I hated it, are now glad that the parents were able to have his own: this experience helps me to keep the book, when I have something goes wrong. Do not ask me to make you a very simple song - will not work. But thanks to musical lessons to something I still learned.
4. Предоставьте своему ребенку широкий выбор, если это в ваших силах, предлагайте ему различные возможности. Разумеется, вы не должны брать на себя все его расходы, но, если подросток берет часть расходов на себя, имеет смысл поучаствовать в этом, чтобы он мог осуществить задуманное.
5. Try to make common cause with the child to learn new skills with him. Let it look like you gave yet another hobby or pastime and how you master a new craft. You can learn together skiing, skating or bike - it's fun, brings together family and helps simulate the process.
The result
Если вы последуете указанным инструкциям, то в конце процесса обнаружите совершенно нового человека. Ребенок превратится в вашего друга на всю жизнь. Вы будете гордиться им, видя, как Бог направляет его шаги во взрослой жизни, как раскрывается его личность.
His work you have done. What exactly could you make?
You show your child that all what you have learnedits infancy, was originally meant to him and now completely belongs to him. You showed him your guardian and steward duties are limited in time, you taught him that from now on will have to do it yourself - to protect themselves and manage their lives. If he copes with this problem, then you have coped with her! »Give us the roots and give us wings,» sung in the famous song. You gave the child what is required for an independent life in the adult world - character.
The process of development of a teenager, supported byfreedom and discipline, love, parent participation and forgiveness, let your child become independent. You can let go of it with satisfaction and a break from the parent work. You have something to congratulate!
