By this age the child already has to learn himselfallocate time for study. You just check the estimates. You have to figure out exactly what you are entitled to demand from your child, and do not deviate from these requirements. If the child did not live up to your expectations, then he can not handle himself with his school life, and from this it is necessary to draw certain conclusions. If you can not solve the problem, consult your teachers and the school principal. First, however, you should allow the child to decide how, where and at what time it will do lessons - if only he had done them. You will interfere only if the result is unsatisfactory.

As in the case of sex and drugs, thisthe problem may be a symptom of some other of the disorder: a bad evaluation - the result of depression, lack of social adaptation and conflicts in schools and the like. Before punishing the child, understand what was happening to him. Remember: »Whoever gives an answer before hearing, it is folly and shame to him» (Proverbs 18:13).

In these and other fields, the principles are quite simple:

1. There are dangerous things and actions; avoid them or die.

2. There are stupid things; do not make them or staying out in the cold.

3. There is immorality; do not make them, and your life will be better.

4. You yourself are responsible for all this, unless you find that you can not cope with the responsibility. In this case, the parents or the law will intervene.

The components of education:

1. Grace. Всегда показывайте, что вы за ребенка, а не против него. Подталкивайте его к добру, не превращаясь в его противника. Не осуждайте (см. Римлянам 8:1).

2. Truth. You specify the child in all ways rightpath and sends it to the observations setting limits and penalties. The truth must be accompanied by penalties that are close to reality, and not the emotional reaction of guilt, anger and fear.

3. Time. Education - this is a lengthy process. Teen takes over your experience of managing their own lives. This takes time and many trials and errors.

4. Flexibility. Education seems to dance. You child change roles: you get less »parent», he - mostly adults. Our role, our relations should not stiffen, they should be changed.