It is ironic, but every child,which normally develops, must necessarily »know how to be afraid.» However, as they say, »fear has big eyes» and often a normal childhood fear becomes obsessive and becomes a phobia. And with such a condition should be fought: it can have a negative impact on the child's mind and have a negative impact on the rest of his life.

»Mom, I'm afraid» - Often tell children about their parentsfears. They are afraid of dogs, darkness, death, ghosts, spiders, loneliness, strangers, doctors, injections, unfamiliar sounds. Fears are different for girls and boys, children with complete and incomplete families, healthy and those who are often sick. Children of any age are afraid of something.

This is normal, when a child is afraid to speakpsychologists. After all, fear, concern, anxiety - such as the necessary emotions as joy, enthusiasm, surprise, sadness. But there is a fine line beyond which normal fear becomes obsessive and becomes a phobia. Very often, parents do not pay attention to children's fears. Like, will take place. Or blamed the child for what he fears. Some parents believe that in this way the child simply shows his dissatisfaction with the fact that, for example, he did not buy a toy or fashion baby clothes (To do this, by the way, it is possible to store»Pillow»), - reproach, his shame or in any other way try to convey to him that such behavior is unacceptable. And it is fundamentally wrong »solution» to this problem.

But, in vain, to help the child. But do not fight your fear, otherwise treat it. Ask your child to draw your own. And then with him in this horror story Doris smile or a funny attractive face, think it a name, put in a cage or on the contrary, release far away. Give your child the defense. This can be a real person, a brother or dad, or a soft toy. And do not laugh at the fantasies of the child, when he says, that is afraid, try to understand the real reason for his fear.

And the causes of children's fears verya lot of. Often they arise from excessive parental care, the child who themselves impose their fears: »This will not take it, cut yourself» »There do not go, you will fall»; from frequent parental quarrels, by cruel punishments, from excessive demands or coldness parents, hobbies TV, as well as many hours of computer games.

Many childhood fears associated with the onset ofdarkness. Therefore, before going to bed do not include a TV, and together with the child read a good fairy tale, play quiet games, talk about how the day went. And it will not only protect your baby from the horrors of the night, but also strengthen the trust between you.